thank u for those who answer my question in "I need to tell someone...". i did confront the other party and she admitted that she knows that my hubby is married. and they are juz friends (only God knows). anyway, deep in my heart, i juz have a mix feelings abt everything. I come from broken family myself and i really hope that divorcing is the last resort. but i juz can't put the incident away. i guess i really need someone to talk to....
2007-01-30 21:03:45 · 10 answers · asked by Bear 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's a lousy position to be in. Been there done that. Time and talking about it are the only things I can think of.
2007-01-30 21:08:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being from a broken family is MUCH better than being, and living in one. Make yourself happy. Stop being so afraid of change. Life is NOT supposed to be sad. If you're sad, you're in the wrong place. Good Luck. Be strong!!
2007-01-30 21:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel rejected? Does this make you fear divorce? Jealous of other women? Does this make you feel unworthy, hateful towards yourself, judgemental of others?
This is what usually happens because of feeling insecure and no doubt your husband is not helping you much either.
Do you find yourself angry with him, throwing your toys out of the cot regularily, attacking him, doubting him, checking through his stuff, disrespecting him because you are suspicious of him?
If you answer most of these, I would like to suggest to you that you need to look firstly at yourself. What is driving you? Have you always felt this way?
Feelings and emotions can reap havoc with our minds leading us to presume and assume the most hellish thoughts. You need to try and cature your thoughts and take them captive. THrow out the negative thoughts and keep the positive thoughts. You need to decide not to cling to negative at all becuase all it will do is drag you down into a negative state. This requires commitment towards self and diligence. its not easy to do this but the more you do it the more you form the right habit and run with it.
Regardless of how you feel GOd commands us to respect our husbands and show them unconditional love and by doing that we will win their respect. Read the book LOVE AND RESPECT by Dr Emerson Eggerichs.
Go see a counsellor or therapist to help you overcome your pain of the past. You never got to deal with the hurts of the past and I believe GOd wants to heal you so that your relationship with your man will heal too.
Dont give in to the wrong things. Give in to God and let him guide and lead you. He loves you so very verty much. Put your faith hope and trust in the creator.
2007-01-30 21:37:59 · answer #3 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well nobody want their marriage to end in a divorce and when such incident happened, it is always a black mark on your marriage. You should talk to your husband calmly and see what is his reaction before you actually decide on your next course of action.
2007-01-30 22:21:07 · answer #4 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep talking to hubby, make him understand how all this makes you feel. marriage is always worth saving if there is any possible way, the hubby needs to understand that he needs more men friends, not lady friends, if this upsets you. Afterall, you should come first.
2007-01-30 21:09:44 · answer #5 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby only time heals wounds like that
2007-01-30 21:08:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love starts with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear. Don't cry over anyone who won't cry over you.. xxx
2007-01-30 21:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by Bite Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time to think about it, then u have to speak or choose a person who will do it for u.
2007-01-30 21:11:54 · answer #8 · answered by Lune_Venus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might just be telling you that cause she don't want you finding out they are having sex
2007-02-03 08:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't catch u..
2007-01-30 21:09:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋