i want to gain more friends....
2007-01-30 19:56:45 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The best way to gain friends is to get out in the real world and live. Do things you like (but get off the computer). Volunteer at an organization you are really interested in, add a part time job doing something you love. But definitely make it something you enjoy doing. Not only will you be having fun and be more motivated to continue, the people you meet will be like minded individuals. In other words, if you are a drunk, single, person looking for friends you don't want to look for them at the PTA and if you are a choir boy you don't want to look for friends at the local nudie bar.
2007-01-30 20:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Here's my suggestion. Since you've lack of self confidence, make the effort of admitting it when socializing. For instance, when you're invited to a conversation with a stranger, say "thank you so much for breaking the ice first. I'm dealing with a problem of self confidence and socializing.." and start off from there.
The best way is the honest way :)
Take care now..
2007-01-31 04:12:07 · answer #2 · answered by Zenithia Victora 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To start, the best way to build confidence is to look at yourself in the mirror and give yourself affirmations. To gain more friends, spend quality time with your current friends now and go places and outings to meet more people.
The most important thing is to try striking up a converstation with someone by just being yourself. If you are truthful to someone you just met, the more confident you are in getting to know that person. But note, don't be overly persistent and do not be overly friendly (That's fake personality). The trick is to breathe and know that you are not the only one in this world who is scared in meeting new people.
Take me as example. I'm really shy, but look at all this information that I am typing to you.
Go to it and remember that you are not alone.
2007-01-31 04:06:24 · answer #3 · answered by Agent319.007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to determine precisely what it is undermining your self-confidence before you can do anything effective in dealing with it. Sorta like putting the cart before the horse, wouldn't you say? It just won't work that way.
You might want to explore this issue with a therapist.
Also, if your problem is related to anxiety, some of the anti-depressant meds are prescribed for 'off label' use for treatment of this problem (which can be very debilitating).
2007-01-31 04:39:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear friend, confidence is not something like u can buy from market.that is the thing which u have to improve on ur self.
and tips are
feel u r one among the good & u can do anything
dont compare with others when ur doing any thing
read some successful persons experiences
and finally attend some personality development classes
2007-01-31 04:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by reddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to halt and cease yourself of thinking and believing that you have to be perfect. You are unconsciously 'force' your own to appear as a perfect one. Which is this is super normal human behavior want to be all time perfect and flawless to the others. Everyone has different value of perfections in theirselves. Some have such a high requirement of perfections, some have average and some have a low rate for perfections. But basically nothing is perfect in this world, not even Pope or pastor or priest or hajji or whatsoever. All are imperfect since the day one...
To me, for those who have such a high expectation of perfections are those who suffer more in terms of unfulfilled. For those who have a low expectation of perfections are those who are the most easy going ones.
2007-01-31 05:22:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
Watch what other people are doing to socialise and mimic them.
Read http://www.unlimitedconfidence.com/articles/improving_self_confidence_through_body_language.php which will tell you how to use body language to become more confident.
Start thinking about which sort of people you'd like to have as friends and approaching them.
Start also thinking about all the good points about yourself - what's good about you?
Do some research on sites such as www.fullofconfidence.com and read the articles there as they will help you to become more confident.
All the best
Jason
2007-01-31 04:04:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its wierd, i consider myself shy, but others see me as confident. When i was around 13 or 14 i heard a quote from a famous actor of a time befor mine. I was 13 or 14 so i dont remember the actor or the exact words, but it basically said "I wasn't born who I am, I invented him in my head and became him"
After that, i decided the 'Me' i wanted to be. I talked a certain way, and walked a certain way. I became more confident. Now thats just who i am, i dont fake it now. Its still hard to talk to girls or speak in front of groups but i push myself. If i am in a new job or class, i just introduce myself to whoevers around me, ask their major or where they are from...take it from there.
2007-01-31 04:09:58 · answer #8 · answered by zorro1701e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be your own person...love yourself, others will love you. Ppl love to join bandwagons as you can see. All you have to be real and be true to yourself.
But is the reason you can't find friends, is because your looking for the cool crowd? You can make friends anywhere, stop being so picky...
2007-01-31 04:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by wess d Ph.D. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just change yourself first, change your hairstyle, fashion style and then try to smile everytime you meet people and greet them like saying HI or anything, juz start with a smile ^_^
2007-01-31 04:03:34 · answer #10 · answered by wEnNy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋