My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 1/2 years..and we've been living together for a year. He wants to wait on marriage, until he can get a higher paying job but wants to buy a house with me. His view on marriage is...engage for a few months and then get married right away..I told him that was't a good plan, too much money in such little time..(ring cost and wedding costs)..I told him my views on buying a house together for marriage, (I'm not for it)...What should I do? What else should I tell him to convince him it's not a good idea?..Help!..
2007-01-30 19:54:16 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you buy now and then the market gets better, you could build equity and be one step ahead of the game, so to speak. However, if you buy a house together, you need to make sure it is a partnership, 50% to 50%- equal. Have it written up legally and binding. If you should split up, one would have to buy the other out or sell the place all together and split the profit, if any. You would have to make sure you pay equal mortgage and everything, repairs. Make it legal to protect yourself. There is nothing wrong with buying a home, that's a great goal. Just be careful if you aren't married. You may have to enter into it like a business deal.
2007-01-30 20:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by Mt ~^^~~^^~ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I will best converse from my own individual experience here, but i would not do it. I purchased a condominium with a guy I had been with for two years. We lived there for three years and then the problems acquired so bad that we broke up. I ended up losing about $12,000 on the grounds that the housing market is so very bad. Also, while you'll be competent to get a condominium for a good deal proper now, the fact that he thinks of the next significant transfer in his lifestyles as either a residence or "putting a rig on your finger battle now" would not sound the greatest--getting engaged and married are way more than simply striking a hoop on a finger.
2016-08-10 14:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by biram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will only talk from my very own very own experience right here, yet i does no longer do it. i offered a house with a guy I have been with for 2 years. We lived there for 3 years and then the themes have been given so undesirable that we broke up. i ended up dropping approximately $12,000 because of the fact the housing marketplace is so very undesirable. additionally, while you're able to get a house for a physically powerful deal good now, the reality that he thinks of the subsequent enormous circulate in his existence as the two a house or "putting a rig on your finger combat now" would not sound the wonderful--getting engaged and married are way greater effective than only putting a hoop on a finger.
2016-11-23 16:49:29 · answer #3 · answered by nordland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a VERY similar situation. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost three years. He has his heart set on buying a house and wants me to do it with him. I am very skeptical of the idea. When he talks about it, it sounds great, but then I talk to others in my family etc. and they think I'm nuts when I tell them I am even considering it. Honestly, I am thinking of doing it, because it is sooo much better than renting, but just make sure you have a contract written up before hand. So if you guys don't stay together you will be protected. We should definitely chat about this! My e-mail is crstevens82@yahoo.com. Shoot me an e-mail and lets chat!
2007-02-01 06:44:34 · answer #4 · answered by dazed and confused 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read through what you wrote... does it make sense? Once you buy a house you are bound to him and what if it all falls to the ground? I think you should have a small wedding then get a house.... A HOUSE COSTS MORE THAN A DRESS AND A RING!!!!
2007-01-30 19:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him this : " look hun, all women are evil, including myself.. if you want a home then buy it before we get married, because if we buy the home together after we are married then I would be entitled to the home also, and when I decide to leave you I will take half of your s**t " .......... if he doesn't understand then, then kick him in the nuts to make your point.
2007-01-30 20:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think deep within you you know that it is not a good idea to accede to his request. He must respect your views and accept that you are not for the idea. He cannot force it upon you. If he does, it will be a good preview of what you can expect between you in the future.
So you have to be confident of your mind and your decision.
2007-01-30 20:14:48 · answer #7 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if it dont work out?
2007-01-30 19:56:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um why not just do it??!!??
2007-01-30 19:59:53 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋