2007-01-30 19:25:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Dating in what fashion? I'll date someone I find interesting or attractive no matter the race.....but as far as marriage or serious relationship...some issues would come up.....
First off...race wouldn't really matter much. If I'm with an Asian woman who's values I love......that's enough. The difference maker would be part of what you are calling heritage....
I should start by saying I KNOW this is hypocritical.....and I don't justify it as right or wrong...merely how I feel....
I'm an agnostic Jew. I would have a VERY difficult time marrying someone who was part of most Christian or Muslim branches. I could manage to do it with a Quaker or Unitarian....those are denominations that have some similar values to my own. The issue wouldn;t be what she believed...that means nothing to me...the issue would be children.
I think there is a tendency for people to get more spiritual as they get older. And a woman with a Christian background...even if she claimed to be an atheist or agnostic....would scare me. After having children, many women suddenly find God. They feel guilty if they don't send their children to Church. I would not want to raise children in a split Jewish/Christian home......I would feel that I needed to compete with her and send them to Synagouge. I simply do not want children I produce attending a church. I don't want any children I produce raised with that belief system/values set.
Because of this.....I am always somewhat reluctant about relationships with non-jewish women. At least when they get serious. I;d have to be very certain...and very secure...that she understood my feelings.....accepted them...and would be willing to raise children knowing I felt that way.
2007-01-30 19:40:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the experiences , sights and sounds of different cultures and races.
However more important than race or heritage is the quality of the human being. If the person is a good person then that matters much more than race or heritage.
What is really important to me before I start to date another person of a different race is the following :
(1) Will the other person accept my culture, like I accept his / her culture ?
(2) Will the other person try to force his or her culture on to me , or will rather allow me to the freedom & space in this matter, and let me make up my mind on this matter ?
2007-01-30 20:05:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Societal "regulations" will say 2-3 years until now getting married and to an quantity, i might agree tremendously if the two are below 25-27 years of age. I married my husband after in basic terms 6 months (knew one yet another for terribly almost a 300 and sixty 5 days) and we've been luckily married for a 300 and sixty 5 days now. might i want to advise it? even although my concern grew to become out nicely, i might nonetheless say no. you're able to desire to be one hundred% rattling particular and we've been although that is not any longer for each guy or woman. At 31 and 40 4 respectively we were with the aid of each and all the bullshit and knew precisely what we mandatory for existence and marriage so we knew for particular we've been appropriate for one yet another. As a pal of mine spoke of the day gone by there are a number of females human beings who're so wanting to marry via a definite age (generally 30) they're going to marry any guy who delivers whether he's all incorrect for her. In my case, I had no activity in marriage even though all of it got here jointly nicely and remains going nicely. long tale short, I do have self belief that is as much as the couple whether that could be a million 3 hundred and sixty 5 days or 4 years. no you will tell a pair what's right or incorrect for his or her relationship. For some, the suited time for particular is a million 3 hundred and sixty 5 days. For others, that is 3 or 4 years. inspite of society's "regulations" I basically don't think there is one appropriate answer.
2016-11-01 22:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the race or heritage does not matter it is about what religion they are. i will only marry a muslim man. i am married so i do not worry about dating. but this makes a relationship work. muslims come in all colors and all races.
2007-01-30 19:53:31 · answer #4 · answered by wedjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not really so much the race, but the culture. I listen to rock music. I hate hip hop music even though it is getting more and more popluar amongst the youth. I couldn't possibly date a female who liked all that crap. It just so happens that hispanic and black females on a majority listen to that garbage.
2007-01-30 19:31:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont date out of my race for the simple fact that i feel we wont be on the same page...and i dont have time to explain my culture to anyone, or have pity on them if someone from my family dislikes them for one reason or the other....sounds mean, but thats just reality
2007-01-30 19:49:24 · answer #6 · answered by jahmakanhotty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If people who are proud of their race/heritage and do not believe in compromise, then if they are not similar a problem will eventually destroy everything.
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2007-01-30 20:02:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
to me race is not a matter but religion is ...
2007-01-30 20:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
to me, I don't really care about race.. all I care is the fact that he is devoted Christian, and wanted to understand and accept my culture.. as I will accept his.
2007-01-30 20:16:01 · answer #9 · answered by duffy_dev 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't want clashes, otherwise you won't respect eachother's beliefs/veiws.
2007-01-30 19:30:40 · answer #10 · answered by *hot_metal* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋