Long distance relationships..?

Question

How many of you are in a long distance relationship, does it actually work..

My bf wants to move to another city during/at the end of this year (to attend another University)..so its either long distance or its over.

I can't go with, I got my own career path. He asked me to go with, I said that I would if we get engaged, he's not ready - he wants to be settled first, though he says that he we are going to be married one day but he does not want to ask me now..I need this to know where I stand with him, I little peace of mind. I don't know anyone in this new city..it scares me..

Answer 1

It certainly is going to put more strain and obstacles in your relationship. I suppose it wouldn't hurt for you guys to give it your best shot. If you guys are meant to be together it'll all work itself out. Don't make the distance force you into decisions you are not prepared to make, like moving to be with him, or getting engaged. You don't want to get engaged under those circumstances -- because you need the extra committment to help secure the relationship. You want your boyfriend to propose to you because he loves you, and he is ready to take you as his wife by his own free will, and not a forced hand.
Go ahead and give it your all, it may work out, it may not. You will never know unless you try.

Answer 2

I dont think of everybody needs to have a protracted distance relationship. existence occurs and gets in the way, you merely could artwork around it. If somebody ought to be with their long distance BF or GF sufficient/or they love them sufficient, they're going to circulate to the place the different guy or woman is and stop the long distance element. those people who've relationships over the internet or out of state "merely through fact" are in all threat dropping their time. long distance relationships wont final if there isnt dedication.

Answer 3

It only works if you want it to. I'm in a long distance relationship; my fiance lives in a different country, but we make it work. You have to remember that it's just a different city. You can always visit him on weekends. Sometimes we have to make sacrifices for love; that's what makes it so special.

By the way, I've known him for 7 years and we've been together for 4.

Answer 4

long term relationships only make on set time table,(like 6 months, a year,) with one party willing to move too be with the other, with honesty and lots of phone calls and on some level be willing to forgive things because S h it happens. I been through 4 of these and the only one the worked, I married. the marrage didn't work but that was 6 years after I moved.

Answer 5

I don't think it can work, simply because being away from each other, you'll both be experiencing things that the other cannot, no matter how much you'll be talking about it. Long-distance relationships are fine for a short time, but then... it's like everything, either you forget or you idealise. Either way, it's no longer real...

Answer 6

I was in one for a long time. No, it didn't work. It's very easy to "be" one type of person long distance, when you're not really like that. It's harder to pretend to be something you aren't up close and personal.

Answer 7

I think it could work out as long as there is trust, patient and understanding in the relationship.

Answer 8

Just got out of one in dec. so that till you as for me it dont work out. I guess some could. how bad do you really want it.

Answer 9

im in one.. my hubby is currently deployed. I miss him so much and our love still there greater than ever! I think it just makes us appreciate each other and the times we have together more

Answer 10

I am not in one, however, I don't recommend it as they don't have good track records. The lives you live apart are so vastly different as are the experiences. Unless you are both recluses, it is not uncommon to grow in different directions.