I'll get straight to the point, I am a gay male who is still in the closet. I have a friend who is my age (17). This guy is like my best friend, we get on really well and have lots in common. Every time we are around each other I feel like were playing a game, because were always staring into each others eyes when we talk, and sometimes we talk about nonsence just to speak to each other. When sitting next to each other, my friend always tries to get close and plays touching games and I play along. I wondered if all the pretty girls in school (who fancy him) being rejected was a sign. I can't actually tell if this is genuine interest, its too hard to tell. Its almost like a game, thats been goin on for 3 years now! But to me its not a game, its serious. I need to know whether he is genuinely interested in me, without ruining our relationship as best friends. I need to know what to do next, Can anyone help me out in this time of need, or have any suggestions? Thanks and I appreciate it.
2007-01-30 18:41:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hhmm...this is tough! So he has no idea you are gay!? In this case I wouldn't assume anything on his part...yet. Seriously! I have a friend who had a "problem" with always thinking someone is gay. Or taking a person for flirting w/him...when it was all fun n games n didn't really mean what he wanted it to mean...ya know!?
My thought on this is...you are young and you are going to have some friends forever and some who come and go. If he is a true friend then I feel he will like you for you and not be concerned about your sexuality. I don't know if you are ready to "come out" but talking to him may be the only thing that could surface the truth! You could do what my friend did....put the moves on him! But what do you think would be better for you? I would say talking to him.
Sooner or later you will come out...right!? So do it now...or hold off a lil while longer...maybe when school is done?
But ya know...you mentioned all the pretty girls getting rejected huh? He could be gay...or just focused on something else....
Best Wishes on this ; )
2007-01-30 18:50:51 · answer #1 · answered by tr95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U in trouble. Does he know u gay??-if u still in the closet I'm guessing not. when it comes to guys, u always wrestle, or tackle each other like a physical competition. so that that u described could just be him being competitive.
so the safe way would be to tell him u gay, without hinting that u actually like him, &see what his reaction is. Hopefully he will still except u as u are, &optemistcally he will return ur feelings.
Pls inform us how it goes. (",)
2007-01-30 19:14:48 · answer #2 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm your in a pickle here.. your friend doesnt know that your gay.. and your inlove with him.. you HOPE that me might like you in an serious type of relationship way.. well first i think you need to come out of the closet.. but dont say anything.. just tell all your friends your gay.. and then if your friend is still your friend.. tell him hour you feel.. and see what he says..
2007-01-30 19:05:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OOh, that's a tough one! I wouldn't just come out and ask him if he's gay, especially since you're not "out" yet...He also may be offended if you tell him you SUSPECT he is gay... I think the best thing for you to do is: (he's your BEST FRIEND right?) COME OUT TO HIM! He's your best friend right? And he loves you. Come out to him-tell him you have feelings for him, and see what his reaction is??? He may very well be relieved to know that he can now open up and reciprocate his feelings to you! Wouldn't that be WONDERFUL? Good Luck!
2007-01-30 18:59:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep they particular do and people who say they dont are crammed with it yet ultimate of all dont basically flirt with one woman yet all of them inspite of the certainty that the 1st woman you flirted with would be little piss'd ,it willpersistent her loopy and she or he'll be when you in a flash certain. have relaxing
2016-11-01 22:53:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion maybe he was a gay like u...because how can he just reject other girls and do like that thing to u?....
2007-01-30 18:49:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it's love, but if he's flirting, it's a pretty safe bet that he's interested. I suggest you ask him out and see what he says.
2007-01-30 18:58:27 · answer #7 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him. only he can say for sure if your suspicions are correct.
2007-01-30 18:45:08 · answer #8 · answered by anne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get help
2007-01-30 19:01:07 · answer #9 · answered by joddie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋