Ladies, can you answer this for me ?
I'm a guy who is very easy to get along with, I value honesty & respect, loyal to all my friends, I don't engage in irresponsible behavior and mind my manners, I help others without being asked, I care about other people and what they think. What I need to know is, how come being this way makes me unattractive in the eyes of women, no matter what their racial background are, or walk of life ? What kind of woman wouldn't hate me for having such flaws, by today's social standards ? Should I just give up on love and prepare to die ? Can the women reading this answer me honestly ? The best one gets 10 points, now go !
2007-01-30 18:05:52 · 10 answers · asked by hman069 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I forgot to mention that I have never dated, and I am 37 years old, and have been rejected by every woman that found that I ever liked, or considered special.
2007-01-30 18:44:47 · update #1
the best way i can answer this is the women you hang out with are loosers. i know of a few women that would bend over backwars for a guy like yourself. just seems the women you go for are shallow and mindless. you may want to start branching out of your comfort group and looking elsewhere for a woman. you sound like a great guy. check out a singles club they go to movies or partys might be a great way to meet someone diffrent then your usuall group
2007-01-30 18:14:39 · answer #1 · answered by athena9980 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'M THE FEMALE YOU... Well I'm 24 and never had a boyfriend or been kissed... and to guys I'm invisible... but I'm attractive (or so i've been told) , intelligent and a great person... I don't understand it either... but I've discussed this ad nauseum with my friends, trying to get it and from what we can gather is that great people like us are only appreciated very rarely, and it takes great people to recognise our potential and specialness.
I'm willing to wait for someone who appreciates me for all that I am, and yes it does suck when you see friends etc around you being happy with someone... but just remember we are in a really great position to learn from all their mistakes... and so when we do get into a relationship we will be wise to all the mistakes that can be made, and I think our relationships will be the better for that knowledge.
Also don't presume that someone doesn't find you attractive... I say no guys like me.. but as my friends say if you give off a wary attitude (which is understandable if you've been rejected) then that can be off-putting for shy people who don't want to risk getting hurt either. Also have a look at what type of woman you go for... if its a particular type or look, then you may be missing out on a great relationship that is around you, but that you just didn't pay attention to.
I truely believe there is someone out there for me... but it might take a while to find them... not every relationship can have its start at 20-something.
All I can say is that you need to carry on building your confidence, enjoy the friendships you have and make yourself an independent, well-rounded person and the right woman will come along and recognise your specialness... don't lose faith
2007-01-31 04:02:31 · answer #2 · answered by tarzanatvw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if what you say is true about YOU, then these women are stupid. Obviously you are refering to women that slither from hole to hole, right? Look, I know that for me, here's how it went: When I was young adult, (18-24ishish), I was not capable of seeing the beauty in a man like what you describe. I was too shallow. I only saw the depth that I wanted to see, and all that is skin deep. As time goes on, and my heart leaves a trail of broken pieces everywhere I've been, I can honestly tell you that if I see a man that is truly like how you describe, these days, I don't really care how he looks (as long as he is not secreting bodily fluids on me or something), I would definately be interested in getting to know him better. Period. So, there it is. Keep in mind, This is not typical of a lot of women that I know, so I would imagine that it is somewhat "not - typical" out there in the big world.
Are you really looking at you, all of you, and the whole you???
If you are unsure and even if youre not, look again anyway, sometimes you might be surprised what you see.
2007-01-31 05:49:24 · answer #3 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what kind of women you are around, but you sound like the guy that I and my friends have been searching for. Don't give up on love. I'm sure there is some one out there that values those traits. Take care.
2007-01-31 02:17:35 · answer #4 · answered by waltinaw74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you treat all women the same, even the special ones like the one you are dating? Being equanimous is a good but setting boundaries is also important. If a woman is seriously interested in you, you have to let her know and assure her she is special or else she will think you are just another charmer or do not know how to set boundaries.
2007-01-31 02:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by Doida 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't give up on love #1. There are women out there that would appreciate having a man like you.
Some women look for men with the "bad boy" attitude which later brings them to Yahoo answers asking questions about what to do with the relationship.
But the women that find men like you need not ask because they have no reasons to complain or have questions to ask.
Believe me there is someone out there for you and when she finds you she will be one lucky women. =)
Good Luck and never give up
2007-01-31 02:18:25 · answer #6 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confidence is King!
Chronic insecurity/underlying anxiety/self-esteem issues ie ie
These feelings are transmitted and women flee.
2007-01-31 03:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The characteristics you mentioned will not make you unattractive to women. Perhaps it is something else you neglected to mention?
2007-01-31 02:15:46 · answer #8 · answered by bambi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my husband sounds a lot like how you are describing yourself to be. That is what I look for in a man. Your love is out there looking for you.
2007-01-31 02:15:20 · answer #9 · answered by guysmommy_09142001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm with bambi, those are all good qulities, i think it must be somthing else.
2007-01-31 02:36:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋