Mine did, and I did leave him briefly, but we have a baby together, and its been a long time since, and hes been so good with me since, tends to my feelings more, wants to take me out on dates, tells me Im beautiful everyday, tells me he loves me all the time, What do you think. I guess what I'm saying is, we have a baby together, and she is the world to him, very proud daddy, but I cant seem to get past the feeling it gave me. you know EXCRUTIATING PAIN! Will I ever get past it?
2007-01-30 18:05:35 · 11 answers · asked by spyster07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Listen to your heart..... hear it.... do that.
2007-01-30 21:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by sarra_nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Swty once a cheater always 1 unless he a real good man and changes, you say your baby is the world to him what about you, you should be his world as well, to me it seems as though he's with you because of the baby , i sorry to say that but it seems like that, As for getting over the pain when you with him , you are going to think about him cheating, it's gonna play on your mind, a relationship needs to be basd on Honesty and Trust and now your Trust is shattered it takes mega time to heal.
Follow your heart, if you feel he not right anymore leave, but if you feel he can change take time to think about it, if you can trust him again.
2007-01-31 02:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes u will get over it, but it takes time, and it will take some time to get the trust back also. My bf cheated on me to, and we also have a child together and i was devestated, i couldnt even look at him w/o crying or getting mad, but in time we did alot of talking and its been almost 6 months and we are doing pretty good, so i wish u the best of luck and if u love him dont give up just yet, but if u can forgive then its better to just move on.
2007-01-31 02:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by Kristy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should do it for the baby. I know some say once a cheater, always a cheater, but I don't think this is true in all cases. He's putting forth a lot of effort to fix what he has done. Maybe you should consider doing what you can. You can get past it, too.
2007-01-31 02:10:58 · answer #4 · answered by TCSO 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I never worked it out, because I have never stayed with a man who cheated on me.
Have you had yourself tested for sexually transmitted diseases? If he cheated on you once, how do you know he hasn't done it with multiple partners. You could have AIDS right now. How is that for an eye opener.
You are just using your daughter as an excuse to stay with this guy. If he loves his daughter, he will still love her after you guys split up. If he loves his daughter so much, why would he lie to his daughter's mother?
How could you ever sleep with him again, knowing he was inside another woman?
Ew! I wonder if he kissed you after going down on this other woman.
2007-01-31 02:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by Mother of flute player 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get over it if you love him
think about it this way you are back with him so you forgave him. From the looks of it he is sorry that he did do it and is trying to make it up to you.
My husband did the same and he tells me everyday that it took for me to leave him for him to realize that i was the only one for him and sometimes it take people to go thought that to know
so
yes I think about it everyday and it is hard to forget
but when you get up in the morning and he is that only man you love waking up to you will forget but give it sometime
o try not to bring it up no need to kill him over and over again
Best of luck to your heart it will be a battle
2007-01-31 02:17:06 · answer #6 · answered by yomom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've never been in your situation, but I have a friend who was in almost exactly the same situation...he cheated when their baby was two months, and she found out ten months after that. She was really hurt and saddened when she found out. I thought she would leave him, but she decided to stay and work things out. They got married, mostly because she needed his health insurance, but they weren't very happy. They've started going to counseling and are hopeful that things will work out.
2007-01-31 02:10:47 · answer #7 · answered by Judi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married my husband after he cheated on me, it was a really weird situation. I think what I realized, was that if you love them, and you still want to be with them, you have to forgive and move on. You can throw it in his face later, because you're accepting him, even after what he did. Although, that is no excuse for him to do it a 2nd time. If my husband ever cheated on me again, I would have to walk away, even with all the love I have for him. I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me, and if he cheated again, I would know he didn't truely love me.
2007-01-31 03:08:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pal. i am a male and i caught now my.ex. wife cheating this cant in my opion once the trust had will never return belive me i know for a fact once this happens it will sooner or later again i wish you the best but it will happen again wait and see . my opion is based on fact. ???
2007-01-31 02:20:17 · answer #9 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on your feeling. If you still love him, you should forgive him. It takes time but I think the love will shorten it. Good luck to you!
2007-01-31 02:33:08 · answer #10 · answered by MIB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain will ease but will you be able to truly trust him again?
I forgave but couldn't forget.So I left!
2007-01-31 02:10:43 · answer #11 · answered by Jo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋