i want my husband to trust and love me more i want him to share things with me his problems family issues, he used to at first then he stopped cuz he thinks i go tell my family everything he tells me, i stopped telling him my problems cuz he tells his mom she then analyzes the probs and tells him that hey ur wife is saying this cuz of x or y reason shes a bad person, for example if i tell him i stopped talking to my cousin cuz hes a jerk.he'll tell his mom she will go to my couisns house and gossip bout me and ask him things on me, she uses my probs and issues against me so now over all i stopped sharing probs with him, how can i kick his mom out of this and become closer to my hubby?
2007-01-30 18:05:29 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hes a nice person we used to share stuff till his mom over took his brain by convincing him im evil, when shes not around things r so much better but shes always there talking and talking and she always has a comment on everything and i do mean everything!
2007-01-30 18:08:17 · update #1
Unlimited amounts of sex will do the trick.
2007-01-30 18:08:45 · answer #1 · answered by WestCoastin4Life 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem with my husband but I started reading this book called For Better or For Best by Gary Smalley and have started to apply the things he talks about and slowly it is starting to work. I have also read the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman and that made a huge difference on the way I view my husbands feelings because I understand them now. Your husband should read the 5 Love Languages too. Just don't tell your mother-in-law anything! They are the worst on going against you and switching around what you have said. I have stopped hanging out with my mother-in-law and the drama has almost completely stopped!! Try these things they work.
2007-01-31 02:18:44 · answer #2 · answered by sasy_tabby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Angel, you and your husband need some quality time together. Next time you are waiting for him to come home from work, have a romantic dinner prepared, a nice hot bath for two and sex in the bedroom.
You then need to talk about getting away from it all for a week or two. Whilst away you need to talk out your problems. You are not going to acheive this with your two families getting in the way by acting like children.
Marriage is about you and him. This comes first ABOVE all else.
2007-01-31 02:39:54 · answer #3 · answered by The Alchemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop involving families in everything you do and say - It sounds like you both need to start living your lives together... There are some things that families should know and other things that should be kept between the sheets.... ie just between the 2 of you.
Both agree that position and you'll discover a real friendship and love.
2007-01-31 02:13:31 · answer #4 · answered by Robert W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down. Never condemn anyone behind their back. Just appreciate they may be different to you and have problems you don't know about. Don't pressure him by pushing for info when he is not feeling like talking. We men need our lady to be a rock to lean on. We are not as tough as we make out. Be calm and there for him.
2007-01-31 03:59:12 · answer #5 · answered by fred35 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know i just have 2 be onest with him and tell him that u both r a familly and u dnt need his mom ur ur cous or i dnt know who 2 solve ur problems guys. tell him that whatever happens between u guys just concern uz guys. comeon u love each others and thats the most important thing. god bless u
2007-01-31 02:16:01 · answer #6 · answered by lastpub_87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move together as far away from family as possible.
2007-01-31 03:16:32 · answer #7 · answered by See it as 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of mum
under the patio is the last place people look ;)
2007-01-31 07:17:58 · answer #8 · answered by keeley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kill the mom!
2007-01-31 02:19:15 · answer #9 · answered by Robb the B.D.C. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BUY HIM A WHOLE BUNCH OF NAME BRAND CLOTHS.
2007-01-31 02:09:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋