Why can't I be happy???

Question

I have always tried to be a good decent person - people always screw me over or stuff doesn't work out & I am never in a "good" state in life.....I am going to give up & resign myself to a sucky life....that seems that it's going to be that way anyway- There are no honest, kind people anymore & nothing is going to go my way

Don't tell me to go get therapy because I already am.

Answer 1

it is very nice of you friend that you are trying to be what you are. but never try to be what you are not.see we cant make all the people around us happy,we make one happy then another will be unhappy. but our life going should not depend on other approval. if you know that you are doing right and people dont like it then forget about them keep your life going. ther is time for eveything in this world. so you keep working hard as honest and best, there by you are improving youself and getting tougher to face the crowd and one day you would shine. because God is watching and He will reward you one day.if you want to give up and go in the wrong way then you are looser. so be the winner. none is born winner they are made winners. even i was faced with lots of hatredness and opposition from socity and parents and they kiked me out but today iam appreciated by many,because i took it as challenge and workd hard but never did i quit. so your good words and works will yied its fruits one day,but wait and be patient. be confident and correct yourself where you are worng that settles the matter. because you have to live and reach your goal and aim.and i wish you all the best and success and i will be praying for you now on. then you will be happy.

Answer 2

You would be happy, if you would stop generalizing using words like always, never, nothing.
I would wish to ask you something? Have you always, this means every minute every second tried to be a good decent person? Then has there be not one single person which did not screw you over? So always every person you met screwed you over? What is about the people who answer you here? So there was never any stuff at all which worked out in your life? You learned to express yourself with letters and words this is obvious.

So you are never ever in a good state in your life? Have you not had one single day when you felt okay or one content hour in your life?
So there is no single honest and kind person anymore on this planet? What do you then expect from us, if there is not one single honest and kind person on this planet anymore, we must then be all liers wasting our time in answering you and doing this only to put you in even deeper misery.

So nothing at all is going your way. You wanted to write this question and so it went your way, did not it?

Most depressed people actually use your strategy to stay unhappy. They associate into all the bad experiences and generalise it to everything and they are blind for things which are going good. Whoever wants to be unhappy should try this strategy out and I promise it will work.
Then people who do that also take every feedback they get as a failure not realising that they can use this feedback to actually come a step closer to their goals. So many scientists spend years from one so called failure to the other and the successful ones always took the failure as an answer to their problems and use it to achieve their outcome as every failure tells us something very valuable. Depressed people but take it personal a nd believe that they are the failure when it was just feedback for them.

if you want to be happy, learn to be grateful. Ask yourself every Morning what the three things are you are looking forward on this day. This might be your cup of coffee or that you have two legs to walk, or that you have a roof over your head. And at night think back on three things you can be thankful for at this day.
Make yourself a gratitude diary and you will see you will feel much happier very soon.

Answer 3

You are trying too hard, it seems. How about just getting on with your life (not "resigning to a sucky life"). Find out what you really like, and do it. Don't think about other people for a while - concentrate on finding your own path. Then, probably, one day when you are (surprise!) happy doing what you are doing, people will start treating you differently. As long as you are dependent on whatever others say, you will not be happy.

Answer 4

I don't know what has happened in your life completely. But I do know that to be happy, you need a couple of things. You need to love yourself(not pridefully) if you like yourself, then others will too. You need to visit people whose lives seem worse than yours. That will help you to appreciate what you have. Then you need some good, loving, supporting friends who will always be there for you. Finally, don't try to be happy tomorrow, for tomorrow is not yet written. Don't worry about whether or not you were happy in the past, for the past is gone. Just take pleasure in the simple things, like a baby's laughter, or a breeze on a summer's day. I am truly sorry that you do not feel happy. I may not understand how you feel, but I can show compassion for you. Best wishes. God bless.

Answer 5

There are good people. You just have to be careful who you trust. I feel the same way at times. But I have mannaged to find a few good friends. There are thousands of people in my workplace and maybe two or three that I would trust to confide in. I wouldn't resign myself to a sucky life. I would try to accept life as it is, and try to make the most of what I've got. When you have something to look forward to it helps. So make plans or find something to look forward to. I don't like where I'm at right now, things are difficult, but I am looking at other possibilities and ways to make things better. So I accept the way life is right now, but I am still trying to imporve things. Having a plan makes it easier for me to cope with the way things are right now.

Answer 6

self esteems stems from self confidence which comes from a positive self image.

here are more stupid cliches that i need to say before i get to the point.

you have to be able to love yourself before you can love another person.

you have to believe in yourself before you believe in others.

you have to trust yourself before you can trust others.

thus, do you see the point? you have to know yourself, your strengths, weakness and positive points (as well as your negative points).

getting hurt is a part of life. even a turtle in a shell will get caught off guard every so often. if you extend yourself to others, you will be rewarded and you will be hurt...life is funny that way.

therapy usually tries to hold your hand and and go 'there, there'. it doesnt resolve much of anything i have found.

diving deep to get to know yourself is the scariest thing there is. it is hard to deal with all your insecurities and weaknesses BUT, in all that doom and gloom, there are your strengths as well!

strengthen your weakness, enhance your strengths and you will be on your way to finding out who you really are.

i had to go through a personal hell to be where i am today. the majority of the answers you read here are at best immature, easy and cheery. nothing worthwhile is easy, nothing is cheery about digging into the core being of who you are and nothing easy about being mature.

being a good person doesnt do jack in ones life. being yourself gets you everywhere. in my life, i am one of the biggest jerks and as$holes i know of...yet people constantly come to me for friendship and advice...why? cuz i have my sh!t together.

youre right, there are no honest and kind people anymore. there are only people. and yes, nothing will go your way because you dont want them to! things to 'go your way' requires a lot of work...some of it good but most of it bad until you reach tht place and say 'hey, this is a cool place in my life'!

you're lazy, unmotivated with no ambition. set yourself a goal, set yourself a date to reach that goal (give or take a little). if you reach it...awesome. give yourself a pat on the back. if you dont, sit back and wonder why it didnt and try not to do it again, then go full throttle again.

i am honest with you because i do somewhat care. i care that you will and should hate my guts so that you will get off your butt and try and prove me wrong that i think youre a loser.

screw the pat on the back and 'go on, you can do it'...if you really want to do something with your life...you dont need anybody's encouragement and people doubting you only gives fuel to fan the flame of determination.

being happy is for homo's...being content is for me!

Answer 7

I continuously say Merry Christmas and chuffed New 3 hundred and sixty 5 days and if someone says to me chuffed vacation journeys I purely smile at them and say thanks and that i'm hoping you've an extremely Merry Christmas and chuffed New 3 hundred and sixty 5 days too!

Answer 8

Do you go to church? My personal relationship with Jesus Christ has given me peace and joy. There are still low points in my life, but God is the one constant. You can also find joy when you help those who are less fortunate than yourself. Try volunteering. Also, I can't imagine my life without children and animals. They give unconditional love and never judge you. My kids bring me more joy than I ever imagined. I wish you the best. May God bless you.

Answer 9

Do'nt try to please others at your expense,Do'nt inspire to be what you are not,live within your means and be truthfull in life.Do'nt pity yourself,instead endiveour to excel,where you fall rise up and put up more vigor as the Bible says ,if you are a Christian, knock the door it will be opened.Soldiers of God never give up.We keep torch Burning until Christ shall come.Life is too short to be spent in misery.Look for happiness no matter cost.

Answer 10

in life, your choices are important...giving up is never an answer to a problem...you don't have to be the prettiest woman just to be happy...if nothing is going your way, then go with what is happening to your life...if people don't understand you, then you must understand them...you can't please everyone so, the best thing to do is live your life according to what your heart dictates and never let anyone interfere with it...just show them the REAL you & everything will be fine..