Do men listen different than women, if so, why?

Question

Want to know why men hear what they want to hear at times, I know that men are different than women, but why such a barrier when listening when just a small piece of information is given?

Answer 1

I'm sorry.....did you say something?

Answer 2

It is patently obvious that You have not held this conversation with too many Men otherwise You would already have an answer. The simple fast of the matter is that Men require less input in order to come to a logical conclusion. Ask Yourself this question: "Why do Women need to use so much descriptive language in order to get a simple message across from one person to another"? They need to feel that They have expressed Themselves in an adequate manner. A Woman needs to feel that She has been heard. It's the old 'Agatha Christie' syndrome. If You read Her books You will notice a pattern in the way She put forward ideas. She reiterated. Agatha Christie would state every new idea on an average of no less than three separate occasions. Check it and see for Yourself. Men get the gist of the idea and then switch off because everything else being said is excess to requirements. Don't pay too much attention to the idea that Men and Women use different sides of the brain. There are Left and Right sided Men and Women. Try doing some research on the subject, You could be in for a shock with regards certain preconceptions that appear to be "facts' about Men and Women. Just ask a psychologist. Simple really, isn't it?

Answer 3

Its not about wanting to hear...men and women's brains are very very different. It has been proven. Men and Women process information differently ...so if you say something he might translate it as something else. He doesn't do it on purpose its just how he is. You can help this by learning and understanding the differences of the male and female psychy and each other. Part of it has to do with when you were raised. Girls are Naturaly better at certain things...and same with boys ...so when your a child you should work on developing your naturally weaker aspects.
Guys are more straight forward ..women tend to need to have a story to everything. Girls are better at comunicating and guys are better at spacial problems and depth perception. All these aspects can be strengthened with practice. Its all part of being a male or female brain.
Guys don't like when you look them right in the eye and tell them stuff because they see it as confrontational....but women see it as attentive. Their is always exceptions of course./

Answer 4

A man mind is a busy organ, they think constantly about what they think are important things. When female speaks to them they try to squeeze that in with the other stuff and give you a quick answer. When a female speaks that is all what she is thinking about at the time, so is a well thought process. When she pose the question then she gets a half a*(() answer. But unfortunately when is a men who ask the question to another men, he does not get the same response as if a woman had asked the question. What do you think? A fallacy?

Answer 5

Men solve problems, it's what we do. If you what you are saying does not have to do with solving a problem we may not listen. Also, women use about three times as many words as men in a day. Thats a lot for us to try to take in.

Answer 6

I'm not sure that's a gender thing. My mother has literally made up conversations without realizing it. And then she thinks the rest of us just "forgot", which is dandy except that the words she's putting into my mouth would NEVER come from my mouth. I think there's individual people with individual problems. I'd be interested to look into some research about those though...

Answer 7

I think men hear what they want to hear! The truth is that men and women use different sides of the brain to do the same things, and that's what makes the problem. It's like using the wrong wrench to do the job....makes things much more difficult. NO JOKE!

Answer 8

man was made out of the dust and women came later to clean up after men.
women and men have had their differences since Eve was tempted by Satan and caused Adam to fall out of grace with God.
Would you want a man to think like a women? or a women to think like a man? methinks not...most men are not interested in the subjects that women debate and vice versa..i know you will probably not agree with this as I am a guy..lol..

Answer 9

I don't think that I agree with you. I think that specific men and women listen differently...but I don't think you can generalize like that and say all men and all women...I think that men and women are very much alike.
That said...I think your question is very interesting..and may have some truth to it..LOL--do I sound confused yet?

Answer 10

Gayle, having several sisters, I can honestly tell you, from my experience, that sometimes guys are afraid that girls just won't stop talking. I don't mean this is a bad way, but honestly, if you knew my sister (whom I don't talk to anymore eversince she and her horrible husband did backhanded stuff), she just went on for hours and she expected me to listen to her like I'm some counselor. There's nothing wrong with that, but she made it a horrible habit for years, and what did I get in return? I got backstabbed! She would just go on and on about shoes and how her colleagues "mistreat" her at the workplace, and never really gave me a chance to say anything, when in reality, I thought she was just as much to blame as her colleagues cos I know she's a pretentious b***h and tries to give the impression that she is some sort of martyr, like she claims that one should only have sex after they are married, but I know she and her horrible bf had been doing it for years. Sometimes I just want to slap her pretentious face cos she is so annoying and pretentious and manipulative and conniving. I think guys are afraid to hurt girls' feelings sometimes, but I know that gay guys like myself are usually super patient with people when we shouldn't be so, especially with someone like that demon sister of mine, whom I no longer acknowledge.

Answer 11

Men and women simply have different communication styles. You have to keep yourself aware of it and adapt accordingly. Listen for cues and try to 'translate' it as odd as it may sound. As for why, it's mostly societally induced. Gender roles are deeply influenced by culture.