I am 17. First off I would like to know why you think one of my friends does this to me. I say I like someone or think someone is very handsome and she goes after him within the few weeks. She sits and brags about it in front of my face. It's not about him because it's just a crush but it irritates me and boggles my mind. I wonder why she feels she has to do it?
Next question.
My friend has been in a relationship with her "b.f." for about 2 years. Basically the relationship is just based on sex, sex, sex and more sex. He deals with her when he wants to. Anyway, he is dealing with another girl that she dislikes. The girl is calling his phone, leaving voice messages and such. The girl is not a fan of me either but we never even talked, she is nothing to me. My friend confronts the girl and then leaves home early. [ someone else had to tell me this.] My friend tells me what happened and now the girl is looking for her. She expects me to fight with her or for her if something happens.
2007-01-30 17:16:36 · 4 answers · asked by uglyvanity 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't fight, I'm not scared to, but I've never been in that situation. This is over a boy but I feel she will be mad it me if I don't and is it wrong to not tag along if something happens ( im her best friend )? She tells me like she expects me to be there if something goes down. I don't even know the girls.
2007-01-30 17:18:02 · update #1
Your first friend apparently feels the need to prove either to herself or to you that she is more attractive (more 'powerful') than you. If she doesn't grow up and stop at some point soon you won't remain friends, cuz she will go after someone you are seriously interested in and it could get messy.
Your second friend seems to expect to have someone fight her battles for her for whatever reason in her past. Don't do it... 'tough love' is needed so she'll learn to be responsible for her own actions.
2007-01-30 17:33:54 · answer #1 · answered by j s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. well, I don't have a certain answer to your question, but I can guess... It seems like your friend needs attention and to feel that she's best at something. For instance, one of my friends has been raised to always be a "winner", no matter what, so sometimes she does things that a normal person wouldn't consider normal or ethical in any way.
2. I would probably try to talk to my friend and get her back to her senses... If you don't want to fight is ok, it's in your right to decide for yourself, even when a friend is involved. I think your role would be to talk to your friend and make her see your logic in the whole situation. If she really is a friend, she won't be disappointed at all.
Hope I could be helpful...
2007-01-31 01:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by phaedria84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first friend doesn't really seem like a friend. She seems like someone who is very insecure and is hoping to bring you down to make herself feel important.
The second friend should not expect you to fight her battles. Tell her that you care about her, and you are sorry this happened, but let her know that she can't expect you to do something you don't believe in (fighting) in a situation that you have no real connection to. Let her know that you'll be there for her after she's dealt with it, but that she has to fight for what she wants herself.
2007-01-31 01:22:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
good joke to play on the first friend is pick out a boy you find slighhtly disgusting and pretend you have the hots for him. See if she goes for him. Never tell her who you really like. Always pick out some loser.
Dont wait to let your second friend youre not going to fight her battles. There are better ways to deal with that.
2007-01-31 01:32:04 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋