When my husband and I have sex it hurts so bad..but I dont know how to tell him that he is WAY to big...I kinda did something mean and I measured it while he was sleeping and he wasnt hard and it was 5-1/2 in...I really need to know what to say and how to say it....please help...
2007-01-30 17:09:35 · 16 answers · asked by Dana D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
when my husband is NOT HARD he is 5-1/2 inches and when he is hard itsaround 9-10 inches...
2007-01-30 17:21:18 · update #1
I have the same problem. It does hurt. Especially if he just jumps in and your not really ready!
*I find if I keep my legs together a bit - not wide open - he can't come as close therefore it doesn't go in too deep... If you get my drift.
*Hold on to his waist and when he gets far enough for you, stop your arms/hands from moving so your making resistance for him to push against.
*Another thing is to try different positions. Try with your legs (pretty much) closed and him on top.
*Lube.
**Also, talk to him! Just tell him you were a bit saw last time and he has got such a big one that he has to be gentle with you - you are his little lady.
Good Luck & Have Fun!!
2007-01-30 17:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by Moz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to tell your husband he is too big down there as you say,I can only tell you that, there is no other way to tell him but by telling him the truth, that he is hurting you. maybe it is you, that needs to see a Doctor because sometimes some women need to have an operation down there, I hope it is that and not your husband because he is going to feel very hurt when he finds out about his problem. This is a very personal matter and I hope you can find a solution with it. I won't go into details because guys answer Yahoo, questions. Good Luck.
2007-01-30 17:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you know this before you married him? If so this is something I would have talked to him about then but since you did not, just be honest with him. I'm sure he does not want you hurting. But either way he can't get part cut off for ya, even if there was a procedure for that, I don't know any man in their right mind that would want that done.
2007-01-30 17:16:51 · answer #3 · answered by lost angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it sholdnt be a prob after all; my bf is really huge down there, like 7.5 inches, hard. it felt so annoying at first, but when u 2 find the best position where it will not hurt, then it will be ok. try the dog style, also, that position where the woman lays flat on her stomach and he rides u from behind. wont hurt that bad after all.
2007-01-30 17:14:51 · answer #4 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol Dont try doggy style that d.i.c.k will penetrate too deep. You are too lucky to be complaining thats for sure. If the problem is telling him his monster is too big, how do you even have s.e.x? You do converse with each other dont you?
2007-01-30 17:19:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you a newly wed? if so it will take time to adjust.and if he is not more gentle,you will have pain..but you should tell him he is too big. dont be so shy,after all, he is your hubby,so he should listen..just wonder if you use any type of lubrication like KY jelly..it might help. any further questions?? you can e mail me or instant mesage to me in complete privacy. wongfiehung2003@yahoo.com
2007-01-30 17:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless your vagina is to narrow 5-1/2 is big. If you say8 inches that can hurt.(advice) Firstly tell him so.(2) tell him not to thrust his penis into you. (3) let him or you lubricate each other. His penetration will not hurt you.
2007-01-30 17:18:30 · answer #7 · answered by Norman C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's actually about average. Maybe you are too dry or too anxious about having sex. Tell him to slow down maybe some foreplay to help you relax. K-Y Jelly may help. Good Luck
2007-01-30 17:14:20 · answer #8 · answered by dnisey64 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Use extra lube..
You will get used to it..
Tell him to go a little slower, more patience and more forplay..
I am just over 9" myself...It just takes a patient lover...
Remember...
That little hole is meant to squeeze babies out of....
2007-01-30 17:45:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest and try to find a confortable solution for the both of u
2007-01-30 17:15:25 · answer #10 · answered by bamberg_worm 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋