i have always wanted to be a surrogate mother free of charge....i feel like it would be my good deed in life to help a family have a child. i never felt this way until i had my daughter. now i really just want to help someone else that cant carry a baby, have a baby. what do you think?
2007-01-30 17:02:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well, as an experienced surrogate mother, of course I think surrogacy is GREAT!
Honestly, the decision to participate in surrogacy (whether it be as a parent or as a surrogate) is extremely difficult, but can be one of the most rewarding times in your life.
While your intentions are highly honorable and altruistic, you should rethink your position of being a surrogate "free of charge". Unless you are in a highly secure financial situation, surrogacy could be a deep financial burden on you and your family should something happen (insurance denied, major health issues during or after pregnancy, etc.) Most surrogates draft and sign a contract with the "Intended parents" outlining financial and legal responsibilities for both parties during the entire duration of the journey.
There are many websites with tons of information, but the best I have found so far is http://www.surromomsonline.com/ You will find insight, articles, advertisements, and even a message board community.
As I said before, surrogacy is a wonderful option to those wanting to start/expand their family or for someone interested in helping another achieve that goal. Don't hesitate to contact me if you have any questions!
2007-02-01 00:59:50 · answer #1 · answered by Indiana Mom Of 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a very selfless thing to do, but as a mother you instantly have a connection a bond with that child. Do you really believe that you could give up that bond? To give up a life that was in your body for 9 months and when she/he is born to hand them over? I see your intentions are good but in the beginning it is like that, because you really feel you can do it. But when the time comes you can become very depressed. You have children of your own to worry about. Your family which you are blessed with has to be part of your decision. Look remember that you will be giving a piece of yourself away even though the baby is not biologically yours, you carried it. Good luck
2007-01-30 17:57:34 · answer #2 · answered by trouble comes a knockin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I could do something like that but it sounds like you are very caring and that would be a wonderful gift for you to give to a deserving family. I personally had a bond with my son when he was in my tummy I know I could never give him or any other child I may carry away.
2007-01-30 17:10:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i could never, ever carry a baby for 9 months and then just give her away... but if you are strong enough to do so, that could be the most amazing gift you could give a couple desperate to have a baby. surrogacy is one of the most generous things i think a woman can do (especially free!).
2007-01-30 17:19:35 · answer #4 · answered by Rebecca O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she those days discover out she cant have little ones? If not they you're newlyweds and its not a stunning good feeling understanding you cant have youngsters or that you're the reason your hubby cant have them. I trust you i could not undertake i'm to egocentric and that i ought to continuously imagine that its not MY toddler i understand that sounds terrible. yet you ought to look into it from her view will it really is that female's eggs or are your wifes waiting to be fertilized? If hers do not artwork in any respect then per chance she appears like that is kinda a "love baby" because it wont come from her. Ask her why she feels this kind extremely of asking us :) solid success
2016-12-03 06:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is a very selfless thing to do, if my husband would let me I would do the same. (We just has our first baby together, pregnancy was not a good experience for us.) You do understand that this will be very emotional? Well all I can say is best of luck to you!
2007-01-30 18:02:07 · answer #6 · answered by cassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a selfless thing to do. You should find a couple that really needs you.
I dont think i could give a baby up that i had carried - it would feel like it were mine.
2007-01-30 17:18:51 · answer #7 · answered by Boo Boo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's very nice of you to do so. I am going to research in my area and hope to find a surrogate next year
2014-09-01 11:31:55 · answer #8 · answered by Latoya W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's an awesome idea and I have even thought about it myself.
You would have to prepare yourself for the separation at the end, but I believe as long as you have a tight knit support group you will be fine.
2007-01-30 18:03:17 · answer #9 · answered by crazydenae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you can do it, it is a great thing. It would be difficult for me, but Kudos to you if you can.
2007-01-30 17:07:44 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋