I am so Sad,and there is nothing i can do.?

Question

My husband just got back from a Deployment this past Aug he was gone for 6 monthes.Now ever since he got back he has been in the field alot,because they are sending olot of marines to Iraq for 7 monthes in April.He will be gone for the whole month of march ... more training to go again.I am very sad.And i am going to miss him alot.I dont know how to handle this.Its very hard.We live on base,and i dont know any wifes around here.We got into a little argument over him not being home as much.What is a good way to get rid of these hard emotions/stress?,and how can i Support him More?.its so hard not to be with the one you love.

Answer 1

Woman I have tears in my eyes reading yr post.
If you are in Camp Pendleton, my daughter lives there just married, new totally new to Marine life.

I know how hard it is to have to be faraway from the one one loves.

HAVE FAITH because faith the size of a mustard seed moves mountains. I know what I am saying.

Was he in Iraq twice?
Im sad for you too, but you have to stay strong for him. YOu have to tell him he will do great and you will be here waiting for his arrival back.

You have to make him feel that you appreciate his work a lot, and support him on that heavily, he needs it.

Don't jump the bridge before you get there. I know its difficult to think this. In the meantime do have lots of loving details for him. Pamper him. Spoil him. Give him foot massages. Scalp massages wiht yr fingertips. Run your fingers through his hair and talk of all the good times you've had together.

Make special dinners for him. Go to the beach or park or a special place and hug him.

There is plenty you can do while he is with you at home. PRAY WITH THE HELP OF OTHER FRIENDS, FOR "WHERE THERE IS MORE THAN ONE IN MY NAME I WILL BE THERE" SAID JESUS.
IT WORKS!!!!

I have had many friends in military. one of them in the Marines got sent to Iraq too. It was heartwrenching yes i know and he was just a friend but I gave him my rosary (one i got from John Paul II directly from him I might add 2yrs before he died). I gave my rosary to my Marine friend so he would have it all the time in his pocket and know that GOD PROTECTS and so does the blessed virgin Mary.
My friend came back safe, he always tells me, "your rosary protected me all the time" and I believe that when one has our Lord in our hearts one gets many blessings and protections.

Get a prayer card or make one, draw hearts on it, write your love notes on it, and give it to him when is ready to leave so he can carry it with him always.

Pray to God that this awful war ends soon. But know we are going trhough tribulations big time.
Wear the armor of God! If you dont know what that is look it up online. YOu protect your mind against evil forces attacking you/him. YOu wear the armor and the sword. There is a lot of meaning and a lot of protection by doing so.
Pls do look it up online by searching "what is Wearing the Armor of God".

Your husband will be safe, he will come back to you, and you will be strong and you are strong for him and for you.

YOu cannot get rid of hard emotions, you work through them. YOu talk about it (but dont put much stress on him coz he is also going through a lot you know that even if he doestn say it). They are trained to show no emotions. But they do have them.

This is what I am afraid for my daughter too, with a baby from her new husband's past and her pregnant due in April. Its a lot to handle without a spouse. I dont think my daughter's husband will go to Iraq but he may get shipped off to Japan. IM not sure.

Contact me if you want. I can offer more help if you decide. I will connect you with my daughter who also needs a good woman friend at the base.

And pls think of these: THINK POSITIVE ALL THE TIME, DO NOT SECOND DOUBT, DO NOT BRING INTOYOUR MIND NEGATIVE THOUGHTS OR FEAR. VISUALIZE YOUR MAN PERFECTLY SAFE. WITH YOU NO MATTR WHERE HE IS.

Try to get the movie "The Secret" to empower you to bring in only good and positive to your mind and life. IT WORKS. The movie is not a common movie. Its more like a documentary, some see it as a sales thing, but you will be able to get a lot out of it. I did. And I know it works.

Empty your mind from fear now. From sadness even though its hard. Distract yourself. Get online and asnwer here. Time goes by quickly.
Things will get better. Your man will come home sooner than you think and hopefully time to get out of duty.

I AM PRAYING NOW FOR YOU.
I KNOW ITS HARD YOUR SITUATION I MEAN. BUT NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE WITH GOD'S HELP. NOTHING.

Take the advice of a woman who was supposed to die at the age of 7 from cystic fibrosis and I am 44yrs old now. not many have beat me. Im the oldetst one alive. I have seen miracle after miracle in my life. yOu know why? COZ I HAVE MY GOD, MY JESUS WITH ME SINCE I WAS 5YRS OLD. Not kidding.
Our God is a loving God. Remember that.
God is not throwing the wars at humanity.
GOD IS ON OUR SIDE AND LOVES HIS CHILDREN MUCH. AND YOU AND HUBBIE ARE TWO OF HIS CHILDREN. HE WILL NOT LET YOU DOWN. I GUARANTEE YOU THAT.

God Bless You!

Answer 2

I know it would be really hard. My husband was in Iraq for 15 months. Get volunteer jobs or any job to keep you busy, and you'll meet other people too. You can support him by not nagging that he's never home. He has no choice, remember? Just try to look happy when he's home. It's not easy to pretend but he doesn't need to see you're frustrated. Take time to talk while he's still here and show him that he's loved.

Answer 3

Dear Marine Wife,

First of all, I'm sorry for all that you're going through. It's bad enough what the troops have to go through, but the families give up alot also. Speaking for me, I thank you for your sacrifice, and I know it's extremely hard.

I grew up in the 60's and on.... and I'm of a generation that's used to war, and seeing it on the television night after night. I remember sitting there watching the evening news, night after night, with my family, watching the battles in Vietnam. And I am also a veteran, but in later years. ( 70's Cold War ) This present generation has been basically immune from war since 1975. They have not experienced the losses, maimed men coming home, or the hardships at home. It's been a real eye opener for many, I think.

I was to stress this to you, because this is VERY important. When your husband is deployed, you may not realize this, but the thing he thinks of most is YOU and HOME. When his home life is stable, it allows him to relax and to concentrate on his mission, and staying alive! If his home life is not stable, that is a constant worry for him, and he may be thinking about home when he needs to be paying attention to his duties. So a supportive wife and family is crucial to a man who is in combat. I cannot stress that enough.

I know you're sad, and that you miss your husband. That's normal, and it's ok. If you have lots of time on your hands to sit and think about this, it's going to bring you down even more, and that's really not good for you, or him.

If you can become involved in something that keeps you busy and your mind busy, it's going to relieve some of this stress on you, occupy your time, and also support your husbands mission. If you can volunteer your time to helping injured veterans, or working with the other military wives, that's an option. Perhaps being involved with your church would help you. You not only would have things to do, but you would receive support from your fellow church members also. Perhaps a local animal shelter needs help. They usually do. Putting your time in to help homeless puppies and kitties might be a good outlet for you, and you'll do some good in the process.

You decide what you're interested in, and I suggest getting involved. It will occupy your time, it will relieve some stress, and you won't be sitting around at home in a blue funk, and thinking so much.

I know this is difficult for you. And my sympathies go out to you. But you need to be strong for your husband, and for you. He's doing an important job right now. And his life literally depends on you being behind him. Ok?

My blessings to you. And thank you.

Answer 4

Distance is hard but love endures forever.
Love him respect him and show him how you kept everything perfect waiting for his return. Keep communicating. Send him pictures. Just pour out your love the best way that you can. Tell him that you respect him for being the brave soldier that he is. Write him a letter telling him everything that you respect about him. he needs to know. WHen he comes home continue shoing him all the love and respect you feel for him. You mean the world to him and he has gone out there to protect your country.

Answer 5

I know how you feel. My husband was in the Army (got a med. discharge) and it was so hard to be away from him. Just try and remember that he's doing this for YOUR freedom. People today seem to care less and less about our men in combat, but they're dying everyday for us. Don't be so hard on him, he can't help it.. he's just doing what he has to do. In the meantime, make friends with the other wives. Once you've done that, you won't be so lonely and you can talk to them when you are. Good luck!

Answer 6

there's only one simple step to do. sit down and have a nice LONG talk with him. it may seem hard but that's the only way you'll know exactly where each other stand. tell him how you feel. tell him you support him and love him but you feel this way. ask each other whats best for your relationship and solve those problems. things might change from then or they might not, but the point this is to build a stronger relationship.

best wishes.