Did you go to school? Work? Did you keep the baby? And are you still with the father?
2007-01-30 16:52:29 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I was 17 when I got pregnant and 18 when I had my son. I dropped out of school because I was going to an online high school and they kept saying I had to do more classes so it had nothing to do with the baby. I didn't work until after. I did keep my son. His father and I had broken up before I found out and we got back together when our son was 8 or 9 months so we've been on and off for 2 years and now we're talking about marriage. Bring a pregnant teenager was hard because I look so young I always had people looking at me and shaking there heads. When my son was five months I took him to the hospital and all the nurse was worried about was my age. So, it never goes away people always think the worst especially if I'm out with my son and step son they assume I'm just another single black mother and that sucks. But, I love my kids and I'm glad I had my son when I did because as of now I completed a trade, medical billing, and I'm in school for my high school diploma. My son didn't slow me down he sped me up. I'm so focused right now I plan to continue to work and go to school but I spend as much time with my child as possible because he's my child and I don't want to just be another mother that drops her kids off with her mother. Well, that should answer your question.
2007-01-30 17:04:12 · answer #1 · answered by Mz Bree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant at 16 and had my son at 17. I had to quit school as i'm also disabled. I kept my son and eventually did graduate. No i am not with his father. Tragically he got shot when my son was only 6 months old.
Being disabled made life a constant struggle. Having a child made it even more so. At 5 years of age i found out my son was severly developmentally delayed and had major mental issues.
I'm going to skip forward now. By the time my son was 10 life was not fun at all. He had already been suspended 10 times. He had been hospitalized 5, and he had been in juvie twice. Then i got sick.
I got turned into state and didnt have a chance. I lost my son to the state at 10 years old. For a while i tried fighting to get him back. They had no intentions of allowing this to happen. Eventually i moved away and gave up my rights.
My son is now in jail until he's 19 for a crime he committed. He'll be 16 in March. I'm now 32 and just recently had a daughter. I'm scared of going through it all again, but my son made me a stronger person.
Being a teenage parent you are a statistic. School, dating, work, even taking care of your child is a constant struggle. Often later in life you regret the fact that you never had the later teenage experiances. Please wait and don't become another teen parent. You deserve more in life and so do your children.
2007-01-31 01:11:20 · answer #2 · answered by DOROTHY L L 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
when i got pregnant(15) i was a sophomore in h.s.i knew that the mistake was getting pregnant not the child.i was told by my school that i had to attend a school for pregnant teens(i did for about 4months)after i had my daughter i took a week to recover and i went back to my old school.i knew though that finishing should was a must so i did.i got a job at a fast food restaurant until my senior year.yes i kept the baby because i had a great support system that reassured me that i made a mistake but the mistake was not my baby.to this very day i am still with the father who happens to be my husband.we've known each other since we were 9.we now have 2 beautiful children .we didn't get married until we were out of college.i hope i helped to answer you question.
2007-01-31 01:09:12 · answer #3 · answered by plus size diva 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My sister was a pregnant teenager. She finished high school and married the man who she was pregnant by. Both of them worked for a time until her hubby got an awesome job. She kept the baby, but had a very bumpy time. She is still with the father and have another beautiful baby boy. She is now 22 years old and with the father. Very difficult for both of them, but they got through it.
2007-01-31 00:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 19 years old when I got pregnant and delivered my son. I was already out of high school and had finished my first semester of college. I am still with the father going on over 6 years now and we are getting married in September. I am 21 now, I am planning on going back to school to get my degree in medicine. I think I did and am doing pretty damn good for myself considering my age that i was when i got pregnant. I am not in debt and neither is my fiance' we have a nice home, and we are very happy. I wouldn't have had it any other way
2007-01-31 01:36:13 · answer #5 · answered by ~ Lace ~ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I was 18 (I guess that would qualify). I finished high school but dropped out of college. Yes, I kept my baby but my parents ended up adopting her which really sucks now b/c I'm almost 24 and MUCH more mature and want to raise her myself. No, I'm not still w/ the father; he signed over his parental rights and lives far away (thank God). Now I'm pregnant w/ #2 and w/ a much better guy.
2007-01-31 00:58:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant over the summer before my senior year. I was seventeen. I turned 18 before I had the baby. I actually had her right at the end of the school year, So I was pregnant the whole senior year and had her in time to bring her to my graduation! I didbt go to prom- I could have, but I hadnt planned in advance because the time was too close together. and I hadnt become comfortable enough to leave her with a babysitter yet.
Anyways, your experience will much depend on your area (whether or not teenage pregnancy is common at your school.) At my school, it was like it was contagious! One after another. I graduated in 2002. But in my mother's time (she told me, ) it was a whole other story. in the sixties (yeah the "olden days") My mother could stay at school only until she started showing. then she had to go away to a special school for teenage parents. Times have changed and yeah it can be hard if you dont have the right people behind you. I had broken up with the biologicall father before finding out i was pregnant, but I met someone when I was 4 months and I explained the situation to him. He accepted me as I was. We started a relationship and he was even there with me when I gave birth to her! I'm married to him today. So yeah It can all work out for ya too. Just pray, and remember dont feel forced to stay or be with anyone just because u need a father for your child. I went through this, and youll realize that sometimes youll be better off on your own because guys CAN let you down when you expect them to be there for your child! Biological or not. So dont just expect anything from a guy because even both of you are young and this was unplanned, Guys seem to think they can just abandon responsibility if they get tired of it and we dont have that choice.
But I dont mean to warn you. As long as you believe you can handel this baby on your own, you should be fine. I hope this helps. Good luck.
2007-01-31 01:25:07 · answer #7 · answered by NICE LADY 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
my neice has a baby and yes she goes to school everydayyes she kept the baby yes shes still with the father i mean its hard when you are a teenager especially if you dont have a job to support the baby i mean milk is 30.00 a can these days so i mean i dont think its easy u dont get a chance to enjoy your teenage life because u have to raise this child and i mean my neice she has a lot of support from her family thats what u need also i mean once you have the baby u have alot of planning to do
2007-01-31 01:06:07 · answer #8 · answered by No Other L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well im jessica and im a mother of four children i was 15 teen when i got pregnant with my first 16 when i had her no i did not finish school i could'nt i was on bed rest for the most part after i had her i was a full time mom and lived with my grandma and mom her sperm downer left me when i was 5 months pregnant the first time he saw her she was 2 months he did not hold her then he went 4 years with out seeing her now im married to mike and he has been raiseing her since she was 4 weeks old and now we have 3 children togather and im 22 so we have four children togather so yes honey it is vary hard haveing a baby while a teen but you no what i did it and i dont regret any of it ....
2007-01-31 01:11:55 · answer #9 · answered by mommaof42007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 19 (borderline teen) and had just finished a year in college, the father worked and we stayed together until my son was two. I stayed home with him for the first year and then started working. There are advantages to being a young mother, providing you are a mother and there with your child and not out partying. Responsibility is the key and having the father there to support you (not just $$) helps too.
2007-01-31 01:09:05 · answer #10 · answered by Mt ~^^~~^^~ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋