i need some help. Here it is.
I broke up with my ex boyfriend las dec 2006 and i should be able to moved on, and i did. Im perfectly fine but you see, remembering him is the most destructive thing that always happen to me. I mean, i still think og him, always even before going to bed, every morning. I don't whether there is a chance of getting back but for now i don't want him back, i don't feel any anger or jealousy. I only wish him all the best things in life. i mean i really do love him and at the same time i don't love him anymore. It's really confusing. I'm still hoping to be with him and get married someday but i don't know if there is still a chance. I love him so much but i wanted to forget, he's free but i think i want him back, but i don't want to look desperate. So for now I just need some advice from you people, how do i forget him? forget regret, loneliness? what should i do if i still love him but not wanting to be with him for now?
2007-01-30 16:52:00 · 9 answers · asked by Mimi Meow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It hasn't been enough time for you not to be feeling pain from the break up yet. Give it 3 - 4 months and the pain should start to go away.
2007-01-30 16:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by Corona 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All the what ifs and what could have beens will only drive you crazy and prolong the healing process. Time is the real healer, and I think it is a great thing that you wish him every happiness, I hope your being honest with yourself on that though. You can have the best intentions and say that but it still hurts to know you could not make it work out with him. Do nice things that make you happy and be kind to yourself. Don't beat yourself up about loss of a love because it takes two to make it or break it. I hope your heart heals soon and that sunny days are right around the corner. I've been there and there is hope and a new day.
2007-01-31 01:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by lost angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This feeling sounds familiar.
I think you should ask yourself what makes the two of you break up. What went wrong with your relationship. How did the two of you end up thus. Being able to pin-point the mistake and letting yourself know what was wrong would enable you to see whether there is a chance for the two of you to re-kindle the relationship.
If you are able to pin-point the wrongs, and decide that you are able to change for the better and re-kindle the relationship, then, both of you can be together again. However, after you have pin-point the wrongs and deem that there is no chance that either or both of you are willing to or able to change, then there will be no way for you to be back together.
In any case, reminiscing a relationship is fine.
2007-01-31 01:06:51 · answer #3 · answered by vach1970 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him and speak nicely and tell him all this stuff. Just woman-up and call this guy, hopefully he isnt too jerky that he hangs up or anything, but explain this to him (not out of love or anything, but as a friend of sorts). If you cant do that and dont want to seem desperate -a simple email will work. It seems too hard for you to just move on. He was your boyfrined so I assume you all were able to communicate. You have something on your chest that needs to be cleared. Then when you are done just tell him ok, and then goodbye and then go get some damn drinks...
2007-01-31 01:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust you need time..by the time you will forget him..
I used to have a gf for more than 6 years..and now we broke 3 years ago..
But i still remember her..i remember her as a beautiful memory..
all you need is just time..and you have to face the fact that he is not for you anymore...
He have his own life..
And you as well you have your own life..or i can say a new life..
Just keep saying that he is a nice memory..and everything wil be fine..
wish you good luck and have a nice life
2007-01-31 01:17:26 · answer #5 · answered by not now 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it normal to feel as you do. it hard to let go of someone that you
loved but as time goes on your heart will heal, but you need to
stop dealing with what if, etc. time to start living your life, get
a hobby go out with friends. do something that will keep you
busy, then you will see that in time you are not thinking about
him as much as before. just take baby steps. it will get better
but you need to see your self in a different place. other wise
you will be stuck right here and trust me sweetheart that
not a good place to be. good luck to you.
2007-01-31 01:19:43 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on, leave the past and embrace the future, it might be alot better
2007-01-31 01:21:15 · answer #7 · answered by bamberg_worm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"If you love something let it go. If it comes back it's yours. If it doesn't it was never meant to be."
2007-01-31 00:59:26 · answer #8 · answered by faith 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really need to just move on.
2007-01-31 00:55:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋