Miscarriage. What are somethings I could have done to prevent it and why did it happen?

Question

I was 2 months along... then I woke up with the worse cramps and blood everywhere...

help.

Answer 1

I'm so sorry that happened to you. t has happened 3 times to me too.
Please ignore the "probably" and more than likely not" etc answers.there is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING you could have done to prevent a miscarraige. 1st trimester miscarages are common and can be for reasons as simple as the egg was not fertilised properly or with a healthy sperm.it is most often natures way of survival of the fittest. There are many reasons for a miscarragie but something wrong with the embryo is the most common reason. Hopefully after a short break you will fall again and not have any problems.

Answer 2

It is not your fault that you had a miscarriage. I'm sure there is nothing that you could have done to prevent it.

My sister had 2 miscarriages and my mother had 6 miscarriages. I was only pregnant twice and had both of my babies.

I felt so bad for my mother and sister. but, I realized there was nothing you could do. It wasn't their fault.

I've always heard that a miscarriage was meant to be. If it was born alive, it would probably be deformed or die shortly thereafter. Having a miscarriage really saves you a lot of pain than having a baby born and then die or be born with handicaps.

Please try to believe it was not your fault. Try again and hope that this time it works. I am 9 and 10 years younger than my brother and sister, with the same parents. My mother had those 6 miscarriages between my sister and I 9 years apart.

Don't give up. My mother finally had me. I know it had to be hard on her losing all those children along the way. I personally don't know what it is like to lose a child, but I'm glad that my mother never gave up.

Answer 3

I'm so sorry for your loss. Chances are, you didn't do anything to cause the miscarriage. Early (first trimester) miscarriages are usually the result of something just not right with the way the baby was developing. There are some estimates that up to 50% of pregnancies end in miscarriage, but most happen before the mother realizes she is pregnant. She just thinks she is having a very heavy late period.

I can understand your concern for preventing the same problem. The best you can do is to eat healthy and get some exercise every day so your body is as strong and healthy as possible. This will reduce your chances of not being able to carry. You can learn more about being healthy during pregnancy at nutrition.birthingnaturally.net. Stay away from cigarettes and avoid alcohol while you are trying to get pregnant, as these can have adverse affects on baby.

Good Luck.

Answer 4

I feel your pain, too. Like the others have said, there is or was nothing you could have done. It's just something that happens. and it hurts now, but the pain will slowly go away.

I had two miscarriages, one at 13 weeks and the second at 7 weeks.

The first was a full hydatitiform mole, placenta no baby. I was told it was unlikely to have another one.

The second was a partial mole. Guess they were wrong.

But it all worked out in the end. I now have two beautiful sons.

I wish you the best of luck for the future. And try to keep smiling.

Answer 5

Sorry to hear this happened to you. I've been through it a few times, even been told I couldn't have kids after one miscarriage. I now have a 10 year old son.

Miscarriages aren't preventable. It's God's way of recalling his defective angel. That's how I've learned to deal with it over time. Not everyone can handle a child with birth defects or other special needs & sometimes, that baby needs go back for lots of different reasons.

It's ok to cry & be angry about the loss. Dwelling on it won't help & sometimes, talking about it will help ease the pain.

Answer 6

I'm sorry for your loss. I miscarried at 8 weeks in 2005. There is nothing you could have done to prevent it, so please don't beat yourself up over it. In fact, my Dr said that something like 1 in 4 pregnancies end up in miscarriage. Sometimes things just aren't meant to be. You never know, there could have been something genetically wrong with your child and it might not have lived past birth. Again, I'm sure you did nothing wrong and the miscarriage wasn't your fault. If you are depressed, please seek medical guidance and find a support group. You'd be surprised how many women out there that have walked in your shoes and have the same questions you do.

Answer 7

Probably nothing. Remember that about 25% of pregnancies end in miscarriage. This is natual selection and there was probably a genetic abnormality in your baby and God and mother nature took care of it so you wouldn't have to have a severly disabled child. Therapy can help you w/ the mourning and guilt you are feeling, and when you are ready you can always try again. My mother's friend had 5 children and a miscarriage between each birth, so this is very common and you are not alone.

Answer 8

I am so sorry!
It wasn't anything you did more than likely. If you knew you were going to have a baby, chances are you took care of yourself. Sometimes when something is wrong with the baby, it is natures way of preventing it from not having a normal life, ie: going full term. It is better it happened now than in 2 or even 4 more months- especially if you were to feel the baby move.
Heal and be healthy and eat a good diet (still) then you can conceive again. Sometimes it is best to think of this philosophically! Easy to say, but it makes it easier to deal with too.

After I answered I went back up and read all the answers. What amazing answers to your problem, talk about compassion and caring! Nice.

Answer 9

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I myself went through a miscarriage three years ago when I was around 3 months pg. I blamed myself, husband, and everyone around me because I felt so disappointed with myself. After a few months of mourning, I realized that it was no ones fault not even my own. Miscarriages just happen and does not mean you did anything wrong. Two years later I became pg again and after bleeding in the first trimester, I went on for the remaining two trimesters and delivered a healthy baby boy.

My prays are with you.

Answer 10

First stop blaming yourself. This happened to me twice and I did the same thing. Most likely there was something wrong with the baby or you may have a problem with RH blood incompatibility with your husband or another reason. Chances are there is nothing wrong with you and you will have a healthy baby next time. Try again and go on because it is nothing that you did to cause this. Good luck...