Should I tell my parents?

Question

I go to a community college and recently I have started the new spring semester (well like a month ago) and in one of my classes I have already missed 4 sessions because of being sick. I tried to email my teacher but she has not responded back. I'm a little scared to show my face in class, because attendence is strict in that class. Its actually a self help class, to help choose your career or major, Id love to still be in it but I'm scared of my grade and different things. I'm considering dropping it since I already know I want to be a kidnergarten teacher, but still I'm ashamed. I dont want to tell my parents, when I drop it I will only be taking 11 units. And last semester I dropped two of my classes. I'm very ashamed, and I want to pretend like I'm going to that class twice a week, but I hate lying and I don't know.

Answer 1

It's more important that you are in classes you are interested in and feel comfortable in than that you do what you think your parents expect. Now that you're an adult, you can make your own decisions. Parents are great for offering advice and help, but ultimately its your decision whether or not a class is really worth the time and effort. Sit down with them and tell them that you have made this decision after a lot of deliberation (so they don't think you're just dropping it on a whim b/c you're too lazy to make up the extra work), and you feel it's the most sensible one. Make sure you let them know you value their opinions and advice, but that college is your experience, and that this class will only take time away from others you are more interested in. Your parents will most likely respect your assertiveness and final decision.

Answer 2

You are only making the situation worse by continuing to not go to class. If it's a class you want to take.. your professor has more than likely seen this before. Students frequently register for classes and then don't show up. If you are still not attending class, and she doesn't know you from Adam, what do you expect her resonse to be? Hauling your butt to class and actually performing is the only way to prove yourself; no one is just going to give you the benefit of the doubt sight unseen.

I think you are self-sabotaging because either you don't really want to be in school or something else is going on. I know this because I have done it before. It's creating a bad situation and then using that excuse to perpetuate failure. The only way to stop the cycle is to recognize it, bite the bullet, and get off your duff to take action. It sounds like this issue of dropping classes is a repeat thing.... if so then this class to help you find some direction sounds like exactly what you need.

Figure out why you are afraid of being successful, and why you keep ruining things for yourself. And go to class. Someone is paying for you to be there (probably your parents?) and believe me, their response to "I ended up making a C because of bad attendance at first but I really did my best the rest of the time" is going to be a heck of a lot more positive than the response to "I just didn't show up to class, so I failed." And consider the dimensions of real life, like: if you are not a full time student (11 credits probably isn't) you could very well not be eligible for your parents' health insurance if you are their dependent (and yes, companies check). Your car insurance payment could go up. There might be tax repercussions.

Everyone makes poor decisions, but let it end there. Don't use your misjudgement as an excuse for continued failure. Don't let failure debilitate you and deter you from ever achieving success. How do you expect to be a teacher (kindergarten, no doubt) if you can't take personal responsibility? You certainly aren't in a position to teach it.

Answer 3

Go and VISIT your teacher, face-to-face, in her/his office. Come clean and at least put this to rest. Let her/him know that you take it seriously and are afraid that you'll be seen as not taking it seriously. Do it NOW! Try to catch up. Don't get into the mistake of pretending. Get this matter settled or it will haunt you. If you really have to drop a class for a good reason, do so. College is stressful enough. Don't compound it by trying to hide what's happening with you. I did that and it was just miserable. So I know what I'm talking about. Some of those profs you really can trust. I made the mistake of thinking that I couldn't trust any of them. It was a really bad mistake.

Answer 4

I wish I was a young woman like yourself and had the opportunity to go to college and have a career but I'm an older woman and find myself here answering questions and trying to help any young person who asks for help....so here is my message to you to ask you and show you you are not washed up....and can get back on your feet and do your best!

First you have to face facts and not cover up anything or you won't get anywhere. Yes tell your parents...why not....they are adults and hopefully will understand what and why you are having this problem.

Whatever is causing your problems about attending classes and not fulfilling your classes your parents paid for it's time now to talk to them and show them you are able to pick up the pieces and start over again getting your grades up and completing your education.

If you decide to lie now you will have to tell another one to cover up the first one. You won't have a clear mind...you will be bugged by trying to be something you are not.

Life has it's lemons....but we add some sugar and make lemonaide..when things are not going smooth we have to pick up and get some courage and fix whatever we can and keep climbing the mountain until we reach our dreams.

Just think those little kids are waiting for you to be their teacher. So you have a responsibility to pass your classes and be that teacher you want to be. I know you can do it if you walk in the class face the teacher and classmates and put your head in the books and work as hard as you can.

Think of yourself in the military and you have to report for duty...that is how you can face your problem....like a soldier someone who is strong minded and can work hard and finish what you started....I wish you the best....get up and get to class don't waste time....

Sincerely,
Mama Jazzy Geri

Answer 5

No need to be ashamed, because whom are you hurting other than yourself? But to stop harming yourself, you need to face the problem and talk to the teacher. If she doesn't respond to emails, you do need to go there to talk to her. If she has a strict attendance policy, you may have missed too much already. My only concern would be that 11 units would take you below being a full-time student, and you need to be sure that you aren't jeopardizing your financial aid (assuming you have any) because of that.

The other thing I would strongly recommend would be talking to someone in psychological services at your school. Something is going on with you if you are lying and ashamed and "sick" to the degree that you are missing classes regularly. It sounds to me like you are stressed out, and none of this is helping.

Answer 6

Why are you ashamed of being sick? It is not your fault. Did you see a Dr. who would give you a note about your illness to show the teacher. Make an appointment to discuss the matter with the teacher. By running away and avoiding the issue, you are making it look like you chose to cut class. You have nothing to lose by explaining what happened.

Answer 7

well, you can show up for your class with a medical certificate proving that you were really sick.

or you can drop. it's what like how many units?! 2-3? u can take other subjects that would really help you.

no need to feel ashamed that you dropped some subjects.. everyone drops some...

and about telling your parents thing.. you should tell them. really. it's less complicated. believe me.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Drop the class

Answer 10

they are going to find out eventually anyway...you may be scared about this, but considering you have a full life ahead of you, this is considered minor....years later you'll look back at this and laugh...go ahead get it over with...