My husband does not show too much affection for me anymore, he works then when he comes home he works outside half the evening, when we go to bed he turns his back to me. We have been married 15 years maybe he has got tired of looking at me.
2007-01-30 16:20:59 · 30 answers · asked by may s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ignore him. Have better things to do with your time than waiting around for him to notice you. If he sees you being busy with things other than him, he'll want your attention, and therefore seek it. Don't talk to him, talk to your friends instead. Boys don't like lots of talking. I do this with my boyfriend and it works great!
2007-01-30 16:24:13 · answer #1 · answered by T.M.Y. 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
These are always tough situations, and I just love all of the women's comments for this question. Lol. The first thing every women needs to understand is that in most siuations the guy doesn't do something like that purposely to hurt you or punish you for something you have done wrong. In lots of situations he's is thinking the exact same thing that you are... That you're missing something in the relationship. But unfortunately for you and him, he does something stupid instead of just talking about it. Now I'm assuming that you have forgiven him and you're ready to move on so I think a great question that you can ask him is simply what he was getting from her that was different from what he gets from you. In most cases you will get exactly the answer that you need to fix it. Now there is also a possiblity that you may hear something that you can't fix. Then it is up to you as to what decision you want to make. But the only way you can fix whatever is wrong is by asking questions.
2016-03-28 21:50:26 · answer #2 · answered by Gail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were married... Hmmm... I would maybe stay up late reading in the other room. learning something new. then I would start working out...inside the house and then get out on the streets and run a little. come back sweaty, take a shower, get something to drink, sit down and lose yourself in a good book. I guess what this shows is you are making yourself more attractive to the outside world. Smart and fit women are an attractive combo. Get some new friends too. Go dancing with friends if he won't. I see so many married couples kind of lose their youth and game playing ways. Try to recapture that for you and he will be attracted I guarantee it. Again, make yourself more attractive to the outside world and watch him grovel to you.
2007-01-30 16:33:17 · answer #3 · answered by keepingitgoing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much affection have you given him? Do you give him a hug and kiss when he comes from work, do you rub his back, shoulders, neck, and feet? Don't stop giving just because he has stopped giving back.
It could be that he is stressed out from work and from other things. You just need to sit with him and ask him what is bothering him. If he doesn't show any affection, then you show it to him. If he turns his back, get closer to him in bed and hug him tightly. Do what it takes to make "him" feel good.
I would recommend getting these two books called, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage".
It is all about giving, he has needs too! (smile)
2007-01-30 16:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't know what he's thinking without talking about it. Maybe he is depressed. Do you consider counselling for yourself to sort out your feelings. You can't make someone feel, do or be anything. The only person you can change is yourself. I suggest starting with an interest of your own, outside with other people. Hiking, exercise, knitting, crocheting, quilting...do a little internet surfing for things that interest you in your area. Other women experience the same thing you are and bonding with those women can help you realize how lovable you really are. Take care of yourself. When one person in a relationship changes, other things around them change as well.
2007-01-30 16:28:52 · answer #5 · answered by Sparky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you guys have hobbies together ? Maybe try counseling or being open and honest to him. He could be completely blind and not realise what he is doing. I am sure he loves you just find out whats wrong. Or stay somewhere else for a while, and see if he would miss you or even call you.
2007-01-30 16:25:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the things that brought you together in the first place.
If you're feeling "ugly" then take care of that as well. He has the right to come home to a decent looking wife, if that is what he married.
Be a woman he wants to come home to.
2007-01-30 16:31:47 · answer #7 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one thing ive learned from my marriage (only two years but still enough to have learned...) he is probably tired, and in a rut. depending on how open minded he is, try mixing things up a bit, maybe a vacation or if you cant afford that a day away from the norm, maybe a racy outfit for the bedroom.
2007-01-30 16:27:03 · answer #8 · answered by Blenderhead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres no such thing as getting tired of you never believe it when somebody tells you that as advice. Maybe you guys should spice up your sex life. this is what me and my husband did. i planned a romantic dinner for the both of us in our bedroom and he didnt know and then just let everything go from there some of his favorite meals can make him happy. then after dinner make sure you have something really good that he likes under your dress and just go from there. men are really easy to please.
good luck
:o)
2007-01-30 16:26:09 · answer #9 · answered by cindy k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way is to have a talk with him. May be he is in his cave now in Mars-Venus terms and you are on top of your wave. So try talking to him and get to know what he is upto and why is the silence.
try reading the book on Mars and Venus (Men are from and Women are from Venus by the famous John Gray) Hope this helps...
2007-01-30 16:58:58 · answer #10 · answered by ThisisMe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to give to receive. Give him more affection and make the extra effort to show him more attention. It may take some time, but stick with it.
2007-01-30 16:29:45 · answer #11 · answered by WestCoastin4Life 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋