Can you love a person's faults as much as you love his or her virtues? Can you love one without the other?

Question

Without the faults you might not appreciate the virtues, and the struggle to improve.

Answer 1

Yes
Most of the time, our traits have two sides -- our faults are mostly the opposite side of the same trait that can be a strength.

For instance, if a person is talkative... in some places, they can be the life of the party, and in other places, they are annoying distractions.

If the person is gentle, they may be great with sick people, and terrible when it is time to be firm and direct.

The will improve when they have a clear understanding of both sides of themself. They will be able to help you improve when you understand yourself, too.

Answer 2

Faults and virtues are purely subjective. What you might consider a cute speech characteristic might sound to me like a speech impediment. The voice you like may grate on my nerves. What we wind up doing is accepting the person as they are, warts and all. If you can learn to accept yourself, without judgment, you can accept another without judgment. We are what we are and acceptance is the key to a healthy relationship. It's not a question of loving faults and virtues, it's more the idea of accepting the whole person as they are. Without judgment. With the realization that each of us is doing the best we can. If you can accept your "best", then you can accept another's "best".