This guy and I have been friends for about 1 1/2 years. When I met him I was dating someone. He and I became very close. He always said that if I was single he would date me. Well now I am single (for about 3 months). I spend ALOT of time with him and his little boy, I've slept with him several times(when he didn't have his son for a night) and he kisses me goodnight/ holds my hand etc even when his boy is there. Yet when he introdues me I am just a friend and he sometimes talkes like I am his best friend whom he just sleeps with!! It's driving me crazy! I can't tell what he wants. I love him to death and want to be with him. But I don't want to push him to define anything, he may just be giving me time to be single after my last relationship (which I am over) Also he works with my ex, could that be a reason he is hesitant to call me his GF? What should I do? I don't want to push things, I just want to know where I stand.
2007-01-30 16:07:05 · 6 answers · asked by Erin B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
don't want this to sound like a booty call. I mean I hang out with him and his 7 year old, I go to dinner with them, even spend most sundays together doing our chores/erands together. Hell I even spent christmas with him and his family.
2007-01-30 16:31:06 · update #1
by the way he behaves, its clear he really cares about you a lot...try to invite him somewhere and tell him about your feelings...am sure he'll understand...
perhaps the fact that he works with your ex is making him a little hesitant but if you make the first step and tell him what you feel, it may become easier for him to express himself...go ahead...talk to him...good luck
2007-01-30 16:22:56 · answer #1 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him...point blank....28 years ago a guy I liked very much wouldn't tell me how he felt, we were sleeping with each other, but never introduced me as his GF....I was ready to settle down and start a family, he kept avoiding that topic; I met someone else, we got married and had a daughter (that marriage lasted 23 yrs, we divorced in 2003). My old BF found me (after searching for 28 yrs and he's married) and recently revealed he has been in love with me all these years (unfortunately, I don't feel the same way). Don't let this happen to you! ASK HIM....good luck!!
2007-01-30 16:21:17 · answer #2 · answered by AngelEyes In SF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in all honesty, i am going through what you are dealing with now, and i totally relate to your sentiments. the storyline is almost similar.
like you, i do feel insecure at times, but i believe, we hang on to what our heart tells us and not be polluted with negative thoughts, eventhough it drives us crazy.
would you consider to drop him an email to let it out of your suffocating chest? cos i would now. and then, follow up with a heart to heart conversation to start peeling off the issues. i know this is gonna be tough for you, (for us, too, cos i feel you!) but it would save us from further distress. for i believe, being frank to someone who is so significant to us is one of the many ways to show them how they are respected, love and cared for.
keep the faith and i hope for the best for you!
2007-01-30 16:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by khilariz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should confront him in a nice way, you have to tell him how you feel about it when he keeps on adressing you as his friend, he has no right to not be officially your boy friend since you already broke up.
2007-01-30 16:44:16 · answer #4 · answered by sammy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like he values you a lot by holding your hands. Try telling him your concern and see how it turns out.
2007-01-30 16:13:27 · answer #5 · answered by anna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel!!!!
2007-01-30 16:27:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋