she doesnt clean or cook hardly at all any more. she stays up all night reading books or is on the internet. what is going on? we have been married 10 years. we used to watch tv together, she doeasnt watch tv at all anymore. i buy her expensive gifts. i spent $1000 on these llando porcline figurines for her bought her new furniture in the living and dining room, a new ring 1 ct princess cut something another. i did all her laundry for her. 6 loads of it. she has sex with me about 2-3 times a week, we used to have sex almost everynight. what is going on. i love her. she only leaves the house on saturdays if i take her to diner or shopping. she never leaves the house, she wont except phone calls even from her mom, she doesnt do her hair or make up anymore. she doesnt need it, but she used to love doing that. it was fun to her. what is wrong with her. she goes days without sleeping. sometimes she doesnt shower. she skips a day. says she's not going anywhere anyways, so why does it matter
2007-01-30 16:04:48 · 12 answers · asked by trooper (canine bad citizen) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
those are some of the symptoms of depresion
2007-01-30 16:10:02 · answer #1 · answered by Sparky 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Talk with her and ask her why she is doing this... Read books with her or get on the computer with her.... At least you are still getting pretty good sex so that is a good thing. At least she goes places and out with you... Offer to help her around the house .... Maybe she is bored or something... Try to make her life more exciting and fun! Come up with some new ideas. You may want to get her to a doctor and get her checked for depression and get her some medicine and medical help and maybe even counselling.. I can kinda understand her because in my first marriage i had no self esteem and i never cleaned house... My husband was mean though and was verrbally and mentally abusive to me... I would run and cheat on him and then come back instead of facing things and getting help this is what i would do ... I was always on the computer and neglected things around the house as this was my avenue out! Very sad but true.. Needless to say that marriage ended in distaster and sadness. I wish now that i would have handled things differently.. I was depressed and messed up and too stupid to go and get the help i needed ... I now look back and realize i should have went and gotten help. Cant turn back the hands of time but needless to say My life is much better now and i dont do this anymore. I love my new husband now and live a very stable and happy life and am happily married to him. No more depression here! I also have God in my life now and He has changed me and my way of thinking! God is sooo very good! He is the healer and great physician!
2007-01-30 16:17:54 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how old your wife is, but if she suddenly has changed and you are doing everything you can for her to meet her needs, then it could be that she is going through some changes with her body..... pre-menopause. You may want to talk to her about how it is affecting you too.
When she is on the computer, what is she doing on there?
Find out what is bothering her so you can help her. Also, she should have an exam with her doctor, there could be some hormone changes too. Or, it could be signs of depression as well.
2007-01-30 16:12:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been there. I reckon she sounds a bit depressed. Are you spending like quality time with her? I was doing it because i felt my husband was neglecting me and it seemed my only out to have a bit of mental stimulation. Try and think of things you did together when you first went out together, what attracted you to her in the first place? what kind of things do you have in common.
Maybe see a counsellor yourself and see what they suggest for the situation.
Keep looking up, there is always hope.
2007-01-30 16:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by Jo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds clinically depressed. Call in the white coats.
2007-01-30 16:37:33 · answer #5 · answered by ann a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds a bit as if she is depressed.
If so, she needs to see a Dr and soon. There will be nothing you can do to help.
2007-01-30 16:10:22 · answer #6 · answered by older mum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think what your wife is going through is pretty serious, maybe she's depressed or getting there, you should talk to her honnestly or just assingne a shrink to see her
2007-01-30 16:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by sasavert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her, do it in love, every problem has a root....God bless
2007-01-30 16:15:02 · answer #8 · answered by Bert 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to ask her. only she knows what is going on.
2007-01-30 16:08:57 · answer #9 · answered by Peachie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe depress,lonely,ask her and have a long talk.
2007-01-30 16:20:00 · answer #10 · answered by hanagal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋