Ok well there's this girl I really like. I see her a lot during the day, but I don't know what to say. I don't want to come on too strong by saying the wrong things or things too early. What can I do or say to just become friends for now? Everytime I try to talk to her, I end up not doing it or some of her friends come up to her (and I don't want to talk to her in front of all her friends unless there's like only one of her friends there). I just don't know what to say. I'm afraid I'll say something that will ruin it all.
We've talked on AIM a little bit, but she's usually not on or only on for a little bit, so I don't count that as talking to her.
What are some ways I can talk to her? What should I say exactly?
2007-01-30 15:46:39 · 12 answers · asked by DaClint 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
We know its hard. Heres something I've learned, once you start talking, it is easier to just say it. Words will begin to tumble out of your mouth and, guess what!, they (more than likely) will actually make sense! Practice this in front of the mirror (its what my first middle school boyfriend told me, and I thought he was the sweetest),
"Hey (insert name here), would you mind if I talked to you for a second?"
Find a place thats public, but somewhat secluded, (otherwise people might be suspicious)
Once shes situated and looking at you look into her eyes and say
"I really like you, and I know we aren't the best of friends, but from the look of it you seem like a really great person, and I would like to get to know you better. Would you like to go out with me? And even if you don't, do you think we could hang out and just get to know one another?"
I know its no Shakespeare, but I thought these were the best words in the world.
Good luck!
TigerLily
2007-01-30 15:59:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is to RELAX... take it easy. Just be yourself, don't try memorizing word you would like to say to her if ever you approach her, the more you think of what you will say the more you will nbe lost in words. the reason why your conversation ends up that bad is because you are pressuring yourself into making a big result out of a handful conversation. if you want her to be your friend try to express your self in your own way (off course not in a jerky manner).
another tip is to know first her interest so that you can plan in advance the line of words of conversation you would put up with her. Be resourceful. Good Luck
2007-01-30 23:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by NB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about school, the weather, music, movies, tv shows..... And as far as her friends, if you want to become friends with her you should try becoming friends with her friends. They could be the key to getting to know her better.
2007-01-30 23:52:58 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. If it's one thing girls don't like, it's a fake. Don't be overly pushy (: You have to let relationships build gradually. Let her feel like you're a person she'd want to be around. And BE A GENTLEMAN! Maybe help a person out... it doesn't have to be her exactly. She'll see you're a sweet guy and maybe you guys will end up together.
2007-01-30 23:53:33 · answer #4 · answered by Sara[heart] 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in this before. Just talk to her, and if her friends are their ask if you can talk to her alone then talk and ask if she wants 2 go out or something.
2007-01-30 23:52:00 · answer #5 · answered by ramsjt28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. Tell her you would like to be her friend and see what happens. If you are just going to be friends, at least at first, then don't worry about her friends. If you are a friend of hers, you are going to have to deal with her other friends.
2007-01-30 23:53:25 · answer #6 · answered by kiera70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go up and say hi to her
ask her how her day has been...see what kind of music she's into...there are sooo many things to ask her about...just don't talk about the weather
2007-01-30 23:50:28 · answer #7 · answered by dancexmagikxdance 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't think of her as the right girl just now . look at her or think of her as any of your other friend and things will be much easier for you. best of luck.
2007-01-30 23:51:56 · answer #8 · answered by journey2paradise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello I like u can we get to know eachother . I would like a good friend more than anything
2007-01-30 23:51:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In any beginning situation, you talk about something that you both know about. Be friendly and courteous.
2007-01-30 23:50:49 · answer #10 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋