adoption and abortion?

Question

why is it that so many are quick to jump to telling someone that choosing abortion is murder? and then also condeming a woman for choosing adoption? women who choose to make an adoption plan for the child are often told how someone else "could never do that" how "could they give their own away to strangers?" they are often asked how can they not know what happened to their child, how they're doing and many other questions to make them feel like a horrible person. but if they'd chosen abortion these same people would be telling them they killed their child, that abortion is murder. i see people all the time on here say abortion is murder, then also tell someone who placed a child for adoption how they could never do that. what is wrong with this picture? seriously what is the problem here? how many of you think being a hypocrit is an ok thing?

thank you some very good points. others are just fools, as such is society. i am not trying to make a decision. i am an adoptive parent, and an infertile woman. people just assume i will be on their side against abortion. they are wrong. for all of you who say abortion is murder, how many kids in the US foster system have you taken into your home? what have you done to change how our foster care system works? probably none and nothing. as for you who say you should "give" your child up to someone who cannot have a child or their "own". all i have to say is a chid cannot be given away. this is not a puppy or car, this is a living and breathing being. yes breathing. and i do have a child of my own, she just happens to have been adopted.

you say you're for adoption. but then use negative words like give and people who can't have children of their own. this statement implys to the common person that adopted children are not real children of their parents, since they are not their own. and to use words like given up, real mother, father etc..., i'm not imaginary, my child that was adopted is my own, she was not given up, her birthmother made an adoption plan that she found to be in the best interest of my daughter. and i am thankful. if you are going to want women to make an adoption plan over abortion, you could at the very least learn proper terminology that uses positive connotations as opposed to negative ones. basically, if you're going to have an opinion that you wish to share, take the time to make it an educated one. this will help you not sound like an hypocrite.

Answer 1

I think it is a matter of choice for those facing a very tough decision. Those who are so against abortion are hypocrits who do not consider the consequences of outlawing abortion. Nobody gets an abortion on a whim, women choose to get an abortion because they feel it is the best thing for them to do.

If you do not want abortions to happen, then you need to think of ways to reduce the number of women who feel that is their best option. You need to urge your lawmakers to improve orphanages and adoption laws in your state. Most of all, you need to love not only the child, but the mother as well.
Leave abortion as a choice for people not to make. Outlawing it will lead to all sorts of horror stories of back alley abortions and children abandoned in garbage cans. I would rather see abortions performed in safe clinics rather knowing that women are endangering their lives due to some percieved stigma of being a unwed or teenaged mother.

Answer 2

I too believe that abortion is murder. My girlfriend at the time had an abortion although I begged her not to. It was devastating. I still hurt for the child I was never allowed to hold and it was over 25 years ago. I know also, that if she had kept the baby I would never have given him or her up for adoption. I would have raised the baby with or without her. But, with all my heart, I wish that all women in that situation would give their babies up for adoption rather than have an abortion. I would never condemn anyone for choosing that option. There are so many people who can't have their own children that would give those babies all the love and care in the world. By the way, being a hipocrite is not ok.

Answer 3

This question is very close to my heart. My wife has had three miscarriages. Late last year, our pastor asked us if we had considered adopting because there were two little boys who needed to be adopted. Long story short, we have custody of the boys and are working with the lawyers to get full legal adoption.

There is a lot of ignorance in the world. Some people think that everyone else should be just like they are, make the same choices they do, and have the same values they have. This would make a very boring world! It is unfortunate that people would make it impossible to make the right choice because they would look down on you no matter what choice you make. Personally, I feel that abortion is not an answer and that one should choose adoption over abortion any day. Before you make any decision, it would be best to take inventory of your life and of your feelings and make sure that you are making the right decision for both you and your baby.

Answer 4

It comes down to personal choice. I would much rather the adoption route was taken. Has a personal point i believe abortion to be morally wrong. Also with the range of contraceptives,available now there is no excuse for the 120,000 abortions per year in the UK alone, and yes health care is provided free over here through general taxation

Answer 5

I believe it should be a choice. I don't see myself ever having an abortion, but I have seen the pitfalls of abortion being illegal. Regardless of whether abortion is legal or not, it has been around for thousands of years with the use of herbs and other methodology.

On the other side, adoption can have pitfalls all the way around. The open records policies that have been recently active, have guaranteed that personal files are easily accessible.

It's all about choice, and some people just don't think you should have any rights when it comes to choice about your body.

Answer 6

I call those people the do gooders, frumpy house wives that have nothing better to do and they are the same people who opt to go to a homeless shelter at Christmas to feed all these people so they can walk away feeling good about themselves, what about the other 364 days a year. And yes they are hypocrites it is up to the women what if it was a rape for example. They just need something to justify their own inadequacies that is all. They all need a reality check.

Answer 7

I think that there is a significant portion of the population who believes wholeheartedly that birth is an initiation into a new phase of one's life as a parent. Under that mindset, any method by which one renounces the responsibilities of parenthood has violated a moral law. They aren't being hypocritical so much as saying that once one is pregnant, there is only one option. I'm not justifying this position, which I feel is somewhat lacking in terms of consideration of reality, but that seems to be the reasoning.

Answer 8

I personally believe, whatever the choice it is not business. I have no right to judge someone, nor do I have the power to walk in their shoes. I strongly believe, that a person should never be so quick to judge or throw a blame, because life is an escalator and you never know where you will end up next.

Answer 9

Don't listen to them, we are living in a country that has slipped backwards in the evolutionary scale for women. Society tends to like to place blame and guilt on women for most everything we do. That is why it is so important to not let religious beliefs interfere with political policies in America today.

Answer 10

Placing a child up for adoption is an heroic and selfless act. A woman who does so realizes that death is never the answer and gives her child a chance for a better life.

Abortion is a completely different story. With the possible exception of cases of rape, incest, and the imminent death of the mother (which together make up less than 10% of the total, and I'm being VERY generous in that figure), abortions are procured for the sake of convenience and selfishness.