Why can I NOT move on?

Question

Around early September I was with this guy, the same guy that my parents didn't want me near...

It was a foolish mistake and it haunts me till this day. Not one day goes by without me worrying about some consequence of my actions. Although no sexual intercourse took place, I fear maybe some of his fluids might have gotten near "my area". Gosh, I can't even talk about it without hating myself. Although I had my period 3 days later, I somehow can't talk myself out of thinking I am NOT pregnant. I don't know why.....the guilt seriously haunts me. I would DIE if I was :(. Its the fear that is getting to me......I bet many here would say "go get a HPT". I just can't do that, many reasons for that. My family is quite strict and if they EVER see me with one.....well, I just rather not hurt anyone else; I am hurting myself enough mentally. Plus, I cannot get myself to just go take one. I would be 18 weeks if I was pregnant.

My question to you guys is do you think I am pregnant?

Should I be showing now? I am 5'6" 115 lbs (if that matters) and have had 5 full periods ever since. The guilt is eating me alive, and there is ABSOLUTELY no one I can turn to to ask for help. :(

Answer 1

honey, if you have had five periods and you did not have unprotected sex, then you are not pregnant.

Answer 2

I know what you mean about not being able to get help with the whole strict parents situation. You are right though...it's the fear and the what-if's that are eating you up. But sit down for a little while and ask yourself if you honestly have any symptons of pregnancy. If you've found time to be on the net to ask this question, you should be able to get some time to research pregnancy symptons. For eg. have you put on weight? are your breasts sore? have you been feeling sick or nauseated? These are just a few common symptons. The way i see it you need to weigh up the realities about whether or not you could actually be pregnant. Firstly, there was no sex. Even if some of his fluid got near you it most likely wouldn't have gone all the way inside and impregnated you, assuming it would be that easy for you to fall pregnant. Secondly you have had at least 5 periods. Thirdly, if you would be 18 weeks by now...you would show or definetely know by instinct that you are pregnant. So in my opinion i don't think you are pregnant. You just have to look at the situation in black and white and then forget about it and relax. I think you know what i'm trying to say here. Good luck anyway

Answer 3

Listen honey. The chances that you are pregnant are about 1 in 1 billion! What you need to take from this is a huge lesson. The guilt you feel is real, and usually means that you know that you have made a mistake. All of us will make mistakes, it is what makes us human. The bottom line is that you sound like a young lady, and you need to learn that your body should not be so easily given away. You need to learn to respect yourself and don't be so gung-ho on having sex. The real blessing here is that there is not a poor innocent baby brought into this situation where neither "mom nor dad" is ready for such a huge responsibility! The best thing that you can do is not even let yourself get into that situation again! Good Luck and quit worrying, just try and learn a valuable lesson!!!!

Answer 4

No I really do not think you are. You have had all of your periods and you said you didn't even have intercourse. You would be showing becasue you are pretty small and would be feeling the baby move here pretty soon. If it puts your mind at ease why not go to Wal-mart and buy a test or have a close friend buy one and you could take it in the bathroom at the store. But seriously I highly doubt that you are pregnant. Try and be more careful next time, use this as a lesson. Hope all goes well for you.

Answer 5

You are not pregnant after 5 full periods. You feel bad about something that has not 'really' happened.
I am unsure of exactly what it is that is causing you to feel guilty but I think you are fine and you really have nothing to worry about. There is no chance at being pregnant so the next time your parents tell you what to do, listen so that this guilt does not come back. I fear that you are coming a bit unstable mentally so let the past go and move forward with your life. STOP seeing the guy if you still are with him.

Answer 6

Since you had your period since your encounter, its highly unlikely
that you are pregnant. Menstruation would flush away an
unfertilized egg and a fertilized egg would stop the menstruation
cycle. It sounds like the guilt is getting to you. With any luck, that
guilt will cause you to control yourself better next time and
prevent you from making a mess of your life. Sex is "addictive"
for most people. The best method of birth control is abstinence
(not doing it) if the "call of the wild" is overwhelming for you, get
birth control. Injections are a good way to avoid detection by
your parents, no pills to find and it lasts for months. Just as
important is to protect yourself from STD's. Sexually transmitted
diseases. If you got one, your parents would freak out as surely
as if you got pregnant. As for your guilt, chalk it up to experience
and learn from your mistake. Let yourself return to normal.

Answer 7

No, and you would be starting to show if you were...

It is okay, do not continue to beat yourself up. It's not worth it to live in the past, believe me - it took me years to realize that! The best thing you can do is tuck that guilt away and only let it surface when it's useful - like when you are faced with a similar situation. Do not hate yourself, and there does not have to be a consequence, sounds like you've put yourself through enough just stressing over it.

Try to learn and let go...that's all you can do. You can't change it!! Take care!

Answer 8

maybe..and this is just a thought (me playing devil's advocate here), that there is a part of you that kinda might want to be pregnant? i know that you are saying that is what you would NOT want, but one would think that after having 5 menstrual cycles, you would have maybe moved on or maybe not let it take such a high priority in your thinking. maybe you are thinking about what it would be like to BE pregnant subconsciously. it honestly sounds like you are without a doubt NOT pregnant. but maybe you need the closure of a test to come to that realization. if you think that seeing it with your own eyes that you are not pregnant would help..i suggest going to the store alone or with a firend (if you are old enough to have sex, you are old enough to go unsupervised to the drug store), and get a test. take the test at home or at a trusted friend's and just make sure that you get rid of the "evidence" really well. maybe after going to the drug store, take the test in a McDonald's restaurant bathroom (i did this once when i was younger and thought i was preg) i am SURE your parents are not going to go rifling through the trash at McDonalds. you will be ok hun, just take the test cause i think it will be what clears your mind. hope this helps!

Answer 9

From what Dear Abby said in her colum a few years back, and before, you have intercourse, is the way to be pregnant. Now, if you are still concerned, do you have a friend with whom you could share this "secret" of taking a HPT? Maybe you could take a few minutes in the bathroom of your friends house? Take care.

Answer 10

There is no way you can be pregnant. Two reasons..# 1.. you said you didn't have intercourse. (You CAN'T get pregnant without having sex with someone) Unless you had IVF, which you hadn't. and #2 You've had your period, multiple times since then.

so the answer is No, you are NOT pregnant.

Answer 11

I too had really, really strict parents, they put the fear of god into me. I have to agree with the other posters, you aren't pregnant. if you are still having mensies, your not pregnant, and at 18 weeks, you would be showing. Plus you would have baby movements, At least I did when i was 18 weeks. Please breathe easy. relax and no worries. your in the clear girl.