when you clearly know, not just think, but know you have been the giver, supporter, communicator, and fixer in a relationship, why might the partner criticise, downplay, accuse and find all the wrongs in your rights?
2007-01-30 15:42:33 · 9 answers · asked by degroove 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Because he or she is either a sadistric pr*ck or b*tch.
There are takers who cannot appreciate the givers, who put givers down and mentally abuse them. It probably is the result of a cumby childhood but they have issues.
I avoid those people like the plague.
2007-01-30 15:46:51 · answer #1 · answered by Plumeria Passion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you KNOW all of this? It is hard sometimes for us to believe that we may be at fault in our relationships and are often quick to put all of the blame on the other person. One thing i know is that we are never always right. You may want to question what part or role you may have in any of the issues your relationship has. It takes 2 people for there to be conflicts. No one person is right 100% of the time. You may just have a completely different way of communicating than your partner does or different views but that doesnt make either one of you right
2007-01-30 23:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by Pinky75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I think it is wonderful for you to be the giver, supporter and communicator and the fixer in your marriage but she is doing this because she has a very low self esteem of her self and is trying to make you look bad to make herself look better. Sorry you have to go through all this. May the Lord guide her and you in this situation. Try asking the Lord for help. Ask and ye shall receive. God Bless.
2007-01-30 23:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be a "People Pleaser". Your partner is clearly the counterpart "Injustice collector"
There are many websites on the subject, here is one of them.
http://www.psybersquare.com/family/family_pleaser.html
If you aren't a "People Pleaser" then you are likely "Co-Dependant" There are a lot of parrallels between the two.
Understanding the personality types will help you toward affecting a change if you desire it.
2007-01-30 23:56:59 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is so hard to believe that ONE person is the sole reason a relationship continues its a 50-50 stop being so crass
2007-01-31 00:03:24 · answer #5 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every body wants to do the right job so you also . but thinking your partner to be of no use is not right at all,
2007-01-30 23:47:24 · answer #6 · answered by journey2paradise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they don't like them selves and they want to blame the world on you!!
2007-01-30 23:48:01 · answer #7 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my conclusions is she's not willing to invest the same time and effort as you do or she's drama
2007-01-31 00:59:52 · answer #8 · answered by anna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because he/she is guilty.
2007-01-30 23:47:36 · answer #9 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋