I saw a mother say this to her daughter at the train station. She was asking the little girl to hold her baby sisters nuk and the daughter dropped it. She said, "why are you so retarded? Don't be such a f'ing retard". What can/should one do. I wanted to tackle her and worse but I really want to know what SHOULD a person do?
I don't want stupid answers like 'kill her'. Be realisitic and give useful advice.
2007-01-30 15:27:49 · 20 answers · asked by Blue 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Yup, it is a tough one alright. But, those are her kids, I would imagine she would disagree with some aspects of your upbringing or the way you raise your children someday. I hate when someone interjects when I am doing something with my kids, it does not matter if I am just watching them play on the playground in a park, or if I am disciplining them. The way I raise my children is none of anyone else's business. Of course short of beating them horribly - I have to throw that in because I am sure someone would freak out if I did not.
So, yes it is disturbing, and yes, it is probably not the best thing to do, but, NO, it is none of your business, and your best course of action is to not raise your children that way. Hers will be in prison soon enough...but if you were to pick up the nuk, and hand it to the child, prepare to be b*tch slapped by the mother in question.
2007-02-05 16:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh that's so hard! I have heard parents talk badly to their children alot! I work in a major retail store, and I hear such ugly heartbreaking things people have said to their children. I too want to tackle them and beat the h--- out of them. But of course I cant, so I find myself saying so that they can hear me " I am so glad she or he is not my mom or dad" If they get embarrassed, maybe they might stop. I'm not sure it phases some people though. Children seem to get the bad end of the deal alot...it is such a sad world sometimes! Children are the most beautiful gifts that exist, and some people just should not be able to have them!!!!!!
2007-02-06 01:08:24 · answer #2 · answered by sooohappy! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Blue, it honestly kind of depends on your age. An adult would have more of an impact talking to the woman face to face and bringing her down a notch. The woman needs some serious help and another woman scolding her might do the trick.
However, a teen would have less of an impact. The woman would just look upon you as a child. If that is the case, then your best shot would be to tell your friend loudly (so that everyone around you could hear) "I can't believe that lady. She just called her kid a f***ing retard! I'm glad my mom was never abusive like that." The woman may be so embarrassed that she discontinues the behavior.
2007-01-31 00:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's such a tough situation indeed...
I don't know if there is much you can do, but you might try this one thing if you can. Try to be nice with the kid in front of her mother.
The thing with this attitude of kindness is that it shows the kid that she's worthy of people being nice with her which might be just what she needs. As for the mother, well at least you'll show her how to be nice and how easy it is.
It saddens me to think about such a thing
I wish I had a better answer, I really do, but how can one intervene in what is perceived has a private mater without being to intrusive to be credible??? It's such a hard question...
Hope you find the best answers to this issue...
2007-01-30 23:43:24 · answer #4 · answered by Jeronimo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, if the kid's a 'retard', it's easy to see where it got that quality!
Hey, if a kid is misbehaving, it's the parent's duty to take care of the situation. However, there are ways to do it responsibly and civilly. Parents who yank their kid by the arm and promise him or her 'a beating when we get home' should be imprisoned for terminal stupidity. Most parents who verbally and/or physically abuse their children are bullies (cowards) and only respond to someone who is more forceful than they are. So maybe the next time you see the above scenario unfolding, you should shout at this stupid cow!
2007-01-30 23:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by Rissa 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well beside that fact that women shouldn't probably be around children let alone have any at all. You just need to say something really loud about and make sure you can hear you, she'll get defensive but you don't need to listen to that.
But you need not pay attention to other people, there only screwing up their kids life and she'll pay for it when her daughter turns out being a crack whore.
2007-01-30 23:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by traven_blood 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would try to find something positive to say about the girl, like, isn't she a cute girl, and so helpful! And, if you were somewhere, like a store when that would happen, and they were at a time and place that you could follow them to their car, and get the license plate number, (being careful) you could call child protective services in your area and report the verbal abuse. That is what a lady who works for CPS told me she has done. If you don't want to go that far, just finding something to compliment the girl on (cute sweater, nice shoes, etc.) what a big girl she is-etc.-that would help. ***I just remembered what I have done at times---I make a joke out of something being dropped. ie: That binky , gotta watch those things, they like to jump out of your hands when your least expecting it. Or in the grocery store, something falls off the shelf-that product wants you to buy it ha ha ha! That kind of attitude may help. Take care.
2007-01-30 23:39:24 · answer #7 · answered by SAK 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Bend over pick the nuk up and hand it back to the little girl, saying " awwwww you are such a wonderful big sister" smile at mom and walk away.
2007-01-30 23:36:45 · answer #8 · answered by Gloria 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
If you are traveling with a friend I would say, in a loud voice so she could hear you, "See that woman there...that's what I never want to be...she's such a bad parent, I hope her kids don't grow up hating her too much." Say it loud, maybe even look at her while you talk about her. Make sure she gets the point.
2007-01-30 23:31:15 · answer #9 · answered by Jimbo 4 · 11⤊ 1⤋
If you were in obvious ear-shot of her, and especially if you had your kids with you... let her know that language is offensive and would she please watch her mouth. You will probably get an earful back, but by calling her out you would probably be voicing the opinion of all those around you. Let it reinforce to you what it means to be civill and provide a good lesson for your kids. Unfortunately, there is no crime for just lacking reason and good judgement.
2007-01-30 23:36:27 · answer #10 · answered by justr 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋