Love Question...?
I moved from my town in italy to Australia around week ago. There i left, family, friends and boyfriend. I came to study interior design. When i told him i leaving, he seemed ok. But when i left he got all upset at me, cried and walked away. I talk to him yesterday but he seem distant. Does he still love me? or have i made a big mistake coming here?
2007-01-30 15:22:02 · 12 answers · asked by isabellla_piorachio 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well 1stly why did you not discuss it with him first ! surely if you love him you cud have talked about it ! 1maybe he cud have made arrangments to coe with you ! i think you need to sort it out ! but it might be to late ! unless you go back and explain youve made a huge mistake ! and need Him !! ! !
2007-01-30 15:29:53 · answer #1 · answered by Darren M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know for a fact that he still loves you, otherwise he would not be so upset. I think he is distant because he is having a hard time dealing with the situation. I think he does not want to act like a jerk, making you worried and spoil your oportunity in Oz. And maybe he feels a bit rejected, who knows. Men are weird.
Talk to him, send him a present from Oz, send him ecards, call him ( you can use these long distance phone cards, which make telephone calls very cheap) and tell him that you love him and that you wish he was here. Get him over here during summer (december) and have a fab time.
You have not made a mistake by coming to Oz. It will be hard but it will be an asset to your future. I did the same ( from holland to the US) and I had a boyfriend as well. We survived the year, although it was hard. We have split up eventually, but that was because he cheated on me half a year after I returned.
2007-01-30 17:52:53 · answer #2 · answered by MM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big Mistake, I'm not so sure. Does he still love you, well you left him in another country, how long do you plan on being here, and how long have you been togeather? You said you told him you were leaving, did he really have a choice. Distant, I dont blame him, its hard to have a long distance relationship, especially if your not a country away, but oceans apart. Good Luck, I'd say he still loves you, but unless your going back pretty soon, I dont think there is much to salvage.
2007-01-30 15:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he still loves you but he's just kinda heart broken because you left him and you two are so far away now, and of course things won't be the same. He probably knows how much he will miss you and is probably scared of what will happen since the relationship is a long distance. He was probably okay with it when you told him, but when you actually left it hit him about how he won't really get to spend quality time with you anymore. This can be really stressful for couples and I hope everything works out for the best!
2007-01-30 15:31:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
You went to Australia for a good and legitimate reason, you have the ability already to use a computer, if your boyfriend has access to and can use a computer too, well you can still both stay in touch, use the computer with Yahoo messenger, for with a web-cam and a microphone attachment, he can see you and chat away until his heart is content, and nobody else can see whatever else it is you both get up to, while you are on-line to him, or better still ask hime to join you in Australia, and never again be forced apart, and you get the peace of mind to get on with what it is that has taken you to Australia. I hope this works for you, for a man in love when his beloved has to leave him is a very heartbroken man indeed, Peace be with you both... Love from..........Tony M
2007-01-30 16:07:27 · answer #5 · answered by tony m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you before, then he still does now. If you don't know how he TRULY felt for you, then not understanding his actions makes sense.
If you were the one for him, the one he thought of being with forever, then he feels he just lost that.
The otherside is that if you love him and plan on studying and going back to him, then painful patience and understanding would be the supportive role he should play. It depends on several factors. Reverse the scenario and try to feel what he feels. How long are you there? Why so far? Are you running from anything? Did you need time to think about things?
Don't fight him on his feelings, just try to comfort and understand them.
2007-01-30 16:04:43 · answer #6 · answered by degroove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes he most def still loves you. My best mate and a bit more was ment to move away. When he told me I was so so gutted but I didn't want to let him know becasue I knew that it was some thing he had to do for him. When the time came for him to go I was a real mess did not know what to do or say to him. I think this is what your boyfriend is feeling. He is just scared that he will loose you.
2007-01-31 01:52:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he still loves you. :)
I imagine he is just upset, and the reality of you leaving is finally sinking in.
I am proud of you for pursuing your interests and education. Please don't give it up because you miss your boyfriend. Schedule regular visits with each other, and send love letters, etc.
Is it possible for your boyfriend to move to Australia to be closer to you, and for moral support?
The separation will be difficult, but if you are in love and willing to work on it, the relationship will survive.
Good luck to you, and I hope this helps. :)
2007-01-30 15:35:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a sign he loves you but ask him to make sure. Let him know when you plan on going back and if he's excited maybe there's your answer.
2007-01-30 16:50:21 · answer #9 · answered by anna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is sulking hope he gets over it & Good Luck with your studies.
2007-02-02 06:57:35 · answer #10 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋