Why do some people sterotype gays in this way?

Question

Why do some people assume that all gays live a life filled with unprotected sex and multiple sex partners. Some assume that our goal is to sleep with as many men as possible, whether they are strangers or people that we know. Do these people consider that there are those of us who choose or want to live in a committed and loving relationship with one partner? I am tired of being placed in the same category as sex offenders and prostitutes. People need to open there eyes and realize that we all love, it might not be the love that society has conditioned us to believe is the right kind of love, but it is love nonetheless.

Answer 1

I know what you mean and Mr Whoknows (who is being rather insulting about it) is showing us the 'wrong side" of the stereotype, I'm sorry to say. I have an over 25 year marriage to a wonderful woman, we have a nice home and we love each other dearly. There's nothing wrong with that in my eyes.
I also am not fond of being placed in the same catagory as sex offenders and prostitutes *but* if we're not willing to speak out about it then no one will be willing to see that we're not like them. It's a bit like Madame Parks refusing to give up her seat on the bus (no disrespect meant to that venerable lady). If no one does anything, no one will notice. If we want the same rights as our heterosexual brothers and sisters then we need to start standing up and making it known that we want them.
That means the Hetero community has got to start noticing that there are, indeed, long-term loving relationships. Like mine, maybe like yours. If Whoknows wants to party, let him go for it, just please let him be careful about it. I want to be able to see him grow old and maybe find some one to love himself. Bless us all.

Answer 2

I think for some people it is easier to create a fictional reality of how things are because they either dont want to know the truth or are scarred of the truth. To create lies and delusions of how things are help closed minded people cope with what is unknown. Others are easily manipulated by the believes and words that people share and pass around. When the majority of people dont understand, they will push away the one person (or few people) who might be willing explain and educate. Unfortanetly, more people are straight then they are gay, lesbian, or bi. So by us being out numbered it is harder to stop and end fictional lies and stereotypes. But as long as we stick together and respect people, then we will always be better than those who bash and smash!! xox

Answer 3

It's easier to ignore problems of the gay community if you can pretend they're all irresponsible, and even more "immoral" than just being gay. If you can pretend there's no redeeming qualities there, and it lets you sleep at night while actively treating queer people like crap or passively being complacent about a society that does so, so much the better.

Answer 4

Well said! I am in a monogamus, loving relationship and plan to stay that way! I happen to live a nice, quiet life. Very very far from being a sex offender or prostitute!

Answer 5

You might want to start by asking why you yourself choose to use self-hating rhetoric- by ignorantly lumping gay men and women as "all gays". You denounce closed-minded individuals who choose to stereotype, yet your own language is politically incorrect and feuls more branding, more desensitizing, and more objectification. Stop using ignorant phrases as "the gays"! CHOOSE YOUR WORDS CAREFULLY when you're fighting for basic human rights! Our communication skills are all we have to protect us in this often hateful and misunderstanding world! Otherwise, we'll be sitting in the back of the bus THAT much longer! In short: FIGHT PRIME TIME. READ A BOOK!

Answer 6

this assumption is only made by people that are not gay and are quick to judge others based on what they think is true...iv been with the same person 10 yrs. and have no want to sleep with other people I'm happy .... we have a great relationship...so most of their comments are just what they are taught and are stereotypical comments...

Answer 7

I don't think they understand how same-sex love works. Also, there is a large propaganda machine staffed by people whose entire job is to literally demonize us. (Many organizations with "family" in their title.) Maybe it's really that they want to have as much sex as possible with as many people as possible, and point fingers to distract from themselves. The problem with that is, when you point a finger at others, three point right back to you.

Answer 8

i'm additionally from San Francisco and gay and yet I even have never had that question posed to me. in line with threat because of the fact i'm tall and human beings may be too intimidated to invite...who knows. yet I comprehend the place you're coming from...that's an inane question to invite...yet additionally bear in ideas that the guy may be asking out of uncomplicated interest and not meaning to be offensive. next time they ask, respond "confident, and you?" BTW: Ken S, San Francisco isn't overpopulated with evil; recover from your self and stop being so judgemental.

Answer 9

WHAT??????????????????????
so here comes the straight gay...who are you to judge other people´s behaviour????
what is wrong in a lifestyle where sex is so important?
Why do you call gay people who want to have unprotected sex and multiple lovers, sex offenders and prostitutes????
why dont you turn into a hetero and start by burning homosexuals???
Ok man you are the "right" kind of gay so you are accepted...Come on man i simply think you are pathetic. Why do you criticize straight people for doing exactly what you do? judging and segregating.
Look man i am gay and i am not any type of gay but i dont want homosexuality to be accepted if that means that all of us have to turn into a flock and behave in the "right" way you seem to be claiming.
I ask for freedom...too big a word for you i think

Answer 10

Well generally speaking the predominantly heterosexual does not like gays and will say or do almost anything to make the lives of gays more difficult!
Hope this is helpful.
*hugs*

JAC<