I cant settle down and i don t know why?
im going on 30. it seems that i am not changing and eveyone else is. Mentally, I still want to go out dancing and I look great. i dont have kids and not sure if i want them.I am not even sure i fi want to stay married. I Everyone around me my age has changed. I dont know why i am not. i get scared sometimes and i cry. My mom doesnt go out dancing anymore. She and i were close we used to go out dancing together and get crazy. i am married but dont feel like i am. we are the only ones who bike ride and roller blade still. everyone else just goes out to eat and thats it. Everyone is setteling down. i find it boring. I dont know if i want to settlel down i dont know if i will be happy. i hate change and things are changing around me. i feel like i am alone in my way of thinking. my friends and family look at me strangly for some reason. i dress sexy and most women my age do not. they are having kids and i am still in the 22 age range but i am 30. i feelout of place
2007-01-30 15:14:27 · 10 answers · asked by sophie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Heather...there's nothing wrong with that....stay gorgeous and go out and enjoy yourself as much as you can, lap it up...i have just become single after 11 years and i missed my 30's, oh how i wish i could go back to them days again, just have a ball and enjoy life while you can....don't change girl, just be you, sometimes we just don't wanna grow old and settle, i did that in my early 30's and i regret it now, i too am a party person, i love dancing and music, AND i have a 2 year old grandson believe it or not.... i still act like a 22 year old, i dress in all the latest stuff and i carry it well, i have a very outgoing personality and love to get on down... i too hate change, i did settle down but i hated it, i found it extremely boring, and your definitely not alone in your way of thinking, i think exactly the same as you, everyone around you are set in their ways, not knowing how to let their hair down any more, you are a young at heart person, like a female peter pan if you like, stay young stay beautiful and stay confident, ...your doing just great...
2007-01-30 16:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you worrying about what everyone else thinks? You need to live your life the way you want to. If you and your husband are still doing things together then that does not seem like a problem. If you two still act young then get younger friends. Dance and party and rollerblade and dress sexy while you can. It is your life. Not everyone was meant to have kids. As far and changes, well that is part of life. You will change when you are ready. Don't put pressure on yourself to change just becuase everyone else is changing. Maybe your mom doesn't feel like going out any more - respect her wishes and find something else you both enjoy. Life is short, enjoy it doing what you want to do not worrying about what other think you should be doing!
2007-01-30 23:24:43 · answer #2 · answered by healergirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think that you are feeling this way because you are not happy in your current situation. maybe you got married to early or felt like you were on a time line because society says that you should be married and settled down at a certain age.
i married at 25 thinking i would never have the chance to meet someone else because i was getting too old. my marriage lasted almost 7 years and now i am a single mother.
i found that after leaving my husband, i had to really do some soul searching. what i came to find is that i was not happy with me, i did love myself for me. and in order to love someone, you have to be able to love yourself first. you also have to be able to say i don't need to have anyone in my life to make me happy. but if by chance someone comes around and can love me for who i am not what society says i should be, then that is an added bonus. you have to feel comfortable in your own skin. once you are, you will find true happiness and the perfect mate.
2007-01-30 23:29:34 · answer #3 · answered by anna s 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is not important what I think,,,,,it is you who should decide what is good for your life, ask your self this ..Is your life worth living? Don't compare your self to others,their life is their life. The bottom line is, are you happy and contented with your life now? How would see your life 10 years from now on? There are a lot of options for you to choose on what direction of your life you want to be.
2007-01-30 23:31:42 · answer #4 · answered by Vannili 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there is a problem if only you make it one. there no rule saying that
ou have to settle down. if you are happy with who you are and
you enjoying life then be happy, when and if you decide that you
want to marry then you will. as for children. that ok as well.
life is what you make it. not what other want it to be. it your
life life for you and not anyone else.
2007-01-30 23:55:04 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't need to conform to what society thinks is right for your age group. just because your 30 doesn't mean that you have to stop doing what you enjoy. Have fun in life. Do you love your husband and enjoy the time that you have with him??? Just because your married doesn't mean that you have to stop having fun.
2007-01-30 23:19:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're going through a mid life crisis.
2007-01-30 23:19:25 · answer #7 · answered by Stefi13 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have a problem and would like to talk to someone about it preferable without rehab since I need school right now
2007-01-30 23:18:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is for you to visit a counselor and ask her/him the same question.
2007-01-30 23:22:41 · answer #9 · answered by grandview.prosser 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have no problem at all. stay young & feel young! keep fit.. you're not alone..
2007-01-30 23:20:55 · answer #10 · answered by kelley282 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋