my man has become very selfish in bed. i dont even want to have sex with him because it usually is very disappointing. all he wants to do is take care of himself. could this be the end?
2007-01-30 15:13:23 · 6 answers · asked by xtal6872 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sux doesnt it.. been there before.. and ur right its a huge turn off, no passion, no excitement, lacks the desire factor..and all u want to do is cry after because its robotic and cold..
Im not sure if its the begining of the end.. although it definately feels like it especially if sex is a huge part of ur relationship, but if u love him , and he loves u, then u have to try and work through it.. if he loves u at all he'll listen to u and try to make things better..
2007-01-30 15:21:37 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, the end? Over sex? No-no-no ... put this into perspective first before you end the relationship because of unsatisfying sex.
I think you need to ask yourself an important question: does his selfish behavior carry itself outside of the bedroom?
If it does, then it is time to reevaluate the relationship. But if it's just inside the bedroom, I think you should sit down and have a heart-to-heart with your man. He possibly doesn't know how he's acting, especially i you haven't said anything. Be honest with him, but also be diplomatic and genital with him. He might feel inadequate. Men's egos are easily damaged and it might make the sex even less satisfying because he might feel a lot of pressure to preform.
Here's what I would suggest: when spending some time alone, bring up the fact that somethings been bothering you. Sit him down and talk about it. After the talk tell him you want to show him what you like ... then let nature take it's course in the bedroom.
If he's truly selfish, you'll know immediately. He'll get highly offended and tell you it's your fault somehow. But if he's worth it, even if he might be hurt, he'll do his best to try to please you.
2007-01-30 15:40:19 · answer #2 · answered by Joa5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not so sure it's the end.
It could be the start of the end if the issue is not brought up and discussed. This discussion with tell you if his heart is the right place. He maybe unaware of the problem.
Think positive, be creative but have that talk. good luck
2007-01-30 15:46:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, often that's the adult adult males that are asserting this. Welcome to the club honey. This reads noticeably much precisely like my submit some weeks in the past. stable success, I wish I had the respond for this one!
2016-12-16 17:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he needs to learn the phrase "ladies first", or you need to leave him.
2007-01-30 15:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YUP HE IS USING YOU TO RELEASE IT FASTER SO WHEN HE GOES WITH THE LOVER HE CAN LAST LONG AND ENJOY IT!
2007-01-30 15:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋