im going on 30. it seems that i am not changing and eveyone else is. Mentally, I still want to go out dancing and I look great. i dont have kids and not sure if i want them.I am not even sure i fi want to stay married. I Everyone around me my age has changed. I dont know why i am not. i get scared sometimes and i cry. My mom doesnt go out dancing anymore. She and i were close we used to go out dancing together and get crazy. i am married but dont feel like i am. we are the only ones who bike ride and roller blade still. everyone else just goes out to eat and thats it. Everyone is setteling down. i find it boring. I dont know if i want to settlel down i dont know if i will be happy. i hate change and things are changing around me. i feel like i am alone in my way of thinking. my friends and family look at me strangly for some reason. i dress sexy and most women my age do not. they are having kids and i am still in the 22 age range but i am 30. i feelout of place .
2007-01-30 15:09:23 · 16 answers · asked by sophie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's your life - live it how you want. Don't be afraid to be you. Have fun while you're still young!
2007-01-30 15:18:40 · answer #1 · answered by broadwayaprilandtiffany 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you and your husband are happy together then what does it matter what other people and couples are doing? If you dont want children then dont have them. There is no written rule that says aged 30 you must have 2children, a dog and a family car!! Too many people have children because they think they should. People want different things from life, as long as you and your husband are both at the same stage then thats the main thing! Just be happy and have fun!
2007-01-30 23:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by keeley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no rule in life saying you have to settle down by a certain age. If you are happy doing the things you do and being who you are, then that is not a crime by any means. If other's are making you feel bad for your life then, it comes from their own insecurities.
Change is inevitable and someday you may want to settle down, maybe not....the choice is purely your's for the making. Obviously you are not ready to take this road just yet and it's a good thing that you have remained true to yourself. I've known alot of people who have "settled" because it was expected of them...now their lives are a complete mess.
2007-02-01 07:27:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is to "do you". You do whatever it is that makes you happy. If going out and partying makes you happy then by all means do that because when you do that, then being true to who you are takes over and when you start being someone else to impress someone then its not real. Some of us or just not meant to settled down young and we would be better off if we didn't. Get it out of your system now before you bring someone else into your world. There is nothing wrong with how you describe the way you live your life. Hell I know 40 yr olds in your shoes. Trust me if you're not happy with you then you will certainly be no good to someone else. So just do you. And when the time comes you'll come around and there will be someone waiting.
2007-01-30 15:21:19 · answer #4 · answered by missmozee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your age is no reason to change your personality. Everyone is different, so if you enjoy rollerblading, dancing, and biking, please enjoy. You will be healthier and look better than those who are "just going out to eat". :)
Do you go out dancing with your husband? I think that would be a fun way to get out and get all worked up for later.
I am glad that you are doing your own thing, not just what you think you should be doing.
In order not to be bored, please think about what dreams, hobbies, and goals you would like to pursue, and take steps to achieve them. Once you find things you really enjoy, you will feel more like you are where you are supposed to be.
My one concern is the fact you "dress sexy". I am not sure what that means, but please be sure the outfits are appropriate to you, and that you are not trying to dress like you are still sixteen.
Please follow your heart, and you will have fewer regrets.
Good luck to you, and I hope this helps. :)
2007-01-30 16:03:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its your life, live it how you wish. As long as you are not harming anybody, you can do what you want. If you dont want kids, dont have them (its better than having unwanted kids).
Word of warning about the kids though. Obviously women dont automatically have the luxury of having kids late in life, so you really need to think NOW about whether you MIGHT want kids. Cos once you hit 35, getting pregnant becomes more difficult (allegedly) and there are more complications and greater risk of the child being born with some sort of syndrome.
2007-01-30 21:29:47 · answer #6 · answered by Chimera's Song 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Going out and dancing and getting drunk is fun! No one said that you had to stop that when you got married. That's ridiculous. I'm sure as hell not going to stop going out and partying. Of course, you should go out to a place that caters to your age. 19-25 year olds don't take a 30 year old dancing and 'getting crazy' with her mom too kindly. Infact, we think it's kind of gross. Stick with retro night or the clubs for the older crowd.
2007-01-30 15:34:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 08:33:19 · answer #8 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you are just scared of getting older maybe? You shouldn't look to those around you to compare yourself too, if you are happy being married, whether you rollerblade or not, then thats ok, you have to go where you are happy and make sure its what you want, try to separate what you really want from what everyone else expects of you maybe?
2007-01-31 01:28:09 · answer #9 · answered by greatdane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thought about that before and realised that everyone is unique, some go slower than others, I'd say good for you. If you changed, you'd be very unhappy as that would not be you. Keep having fan, I'd not be surprised if some of your friends secretly wish they could have same zest for life.
2007-01-31 02:05:37 · answer #10 · answered by lulu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen.. just be who u are..why are you looking at others? your friends have their own style and you have yours.. if you try to change only because they have changed, it is not gonna work.. enjoy your life.. if you are happy with the way you are, stay the same .. no need to change dear.. everybody is different and everybody should know this.. enjoy biking ride and roller blade... have fun..
2007-01-30 15:22:34 · answer #11 · answered by chinchin 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋