We only have occassional sex more or less at his descretion, how can i make sex more interesting to him, and last longer, without offending him? How can i convince him to explore more sexually, and to be aroused more frequently?
2007-01-30 15:07:05 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
As females it is sometimes difficult to make that first move. to me it seems like you guys need something to spark off your sex lives. i had a similar problem with my boyfriend. my method of solution may not be one that you agree with but i believe that it is worth giving a shot. i eased the tension on myself by allowing myself to get overly intoxicated and once i began to feel lose and ready to confront our lame sex life i began to initiate the foreplay. my boyfriend loved it! we tried things that we had never tried before (nothing too erotic or exotic!) and he actually went longer than usual it was an invigorating experience. the next day when he glowingly asked me about it, i just blamed it on the alcohol, but we were able to talk about our sex life more freely from that point on because we both felt comfortable crossing that boundary.
2007-01-30 15:22:28 · answer #1 · answered by bama_chick05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-03 06:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you want. Go to dinner or sit down outside the bedroom and "TALK" about sex. If there is anything he does that you like, let him know; but also let him know YOU have needs as well. "Baby, I just want you to know what 'I' like and wish you would spend a little more time on some of these things". Do not put him down; but instead encourage him and challenge him to please you. He will, if he has compassion, appreciate what you tell him. Sex is wonderfull; but early in a relationship it is very important to communicate. Sorry; but guys don't do well with reading minds. We just don't. TALK.
2007-01-30 15:21:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know about you but i get tired and sometimes dont want to have sex - sometimes men get tired too - he may have a lot of stress or someting. I heard once that foreplay starts in the ktchen not in the bedroom. Help him out with something - simple as his laundry or picking up dishes - then he will want to kiss you to say thanks. Simple things like that will make you guys have phsical contact. Hopefully.
Also be open to try new things - he may want to try something new and be afraid to say something. Once when I felt like my sex like was going down, after dinner one night - i didn't plan it with him, But i made him stop by a sex shop. It was fun to walk around and be comfortable with eachother and ask eacthother if wanted to try things. We didn't buy any toys but sure has fun looking at em. We ended up buying a sex dice game - and some flavor lube, and oral sex coupons for eachother. Its the fun stuff before sex that makes us want to have sex, and makes sex fun and enjoyable.
2007-01-30 15:20:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-30 15:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by itry007 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you have to make the first moves if you want this. when he gets home from work or wherever, light candles, dress light, ect. You have to make the first move if you want more sex. Who knows, maybe he doesnt have much sex with you because he doesnt think you want to have it alot. Lasting longer- i like to go two rounds, first is shorter (obviously) then the second lasts very longer. Try to urge him to do this
2007-01-30 15:14:05 · answer #6 · answered by chris_m 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take control. You said it's usually at his descretion, why don't you begin it. Men love women who are enjoying it. He will thrive off of that. You explore more, and he will explore more. Tell him what you want him to do and how you want him to do it. They love that......along with telling him how good it makes you feel.
2007-01-30 15:12:04 · answer #7 · answered by Nette 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
remind him of why ya'll were attracted to each other in the first place. try dressing up in something skimpy and walking around infront of him. When engaging in foreplay, take your time, and tell him that you want to feel the "slow burn" rather than "I want it to last longer". good luck.
2007-01-30 15:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You must find away to be open and honest when it comes to this delicate conversation, and don't be afraid to seek professional help, Sex therapist???
2007-01-30 15:14:51 · answer #9 · answered by jasomsaso 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how much it means to you... tell him that you want it to last longer and that you want to do it more often and tell him why you feel this is important... but if he doesn't want to do it, just respect his wishes... Good luck!
2007-01-30 15:18:09 · answer #10 · answered by Wicawango Fan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋