He has lost his grandmother and his mother in the last 6 months he crys alot and he is not the emtional type he won't sleep, eats fast food if he is hungry...he is drinking alot and is thinking of doing drugs...he talks to me but just enough to get by but I know it is more, "how do I help him what do I say or request for him to do"?..he has gone to the doctors and they said he is getting sick and they need to do test...I know depression is different for men than women how "do I help him"?
2007-01-30 15:02:55 · 14 answers · asked by kellygirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell him to talk to his parents or a school counselor.
Good Luck!
'-)
2007-01-30 15:05:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear Kelly girl your friend sounds really depressed and really all you can do is talk with him. Sit him down and tell him that you know that he is going through a rough time and tell him that you are worried about him and try to show him how he is changing. Get him to tell you just about everything. If you think he is really bad you could try to get him to go to therapy. Though im not sure if that is best in this situation its really up to you. If you think its the best way to go. Be with him as much as you can. Stay close and try and keep an eye on him.Talk him out of doing bad things like drugs and alcohol. Tell him he is acting differently and point out everything that he does. Tell him how by doing things like drugs and drinking change lives tell him all the negative things about that. Say that it is okay to drink once and a while but say don't drink because it takes the pain away.Well that's just about all you can do. Good luck
2007-01-30 23:28:43 · answer #2 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
encourage him to ease away from drinking and drugs. It is best for him to talk to a therapist, and to get on medication as well. Tell him to see his doctor for the medication. Besides that, try to tell him that his mother and grandmother are in a better place, and they would not have wanted to see him in this depressed state if they were still here. Best of luck
2007-01-30 23:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by chris_m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
greetings...Wow!! that's alot to take in all at once. it doesn't matter of your gender regarding depression. depression is depression. although we differ in many other area's the human mind body and soul suffers emotional tragedy the same. i'm deeply saddened to hear of your friends loss. your support and comfort is really all you can do at this time. being there with him, and consoling him is really the best thing you can really do. unfortunately there's not a hand book we can refer to and help guide us through some of lifes most difficult times. may i suggest contacting your local perish. whether or not you or your friend go to church or have religious beliefs, a pastor, priest or some religious figure can be very helpful in this time of need. for the most part they are trained psycologist with degree's in this field. no amount of therapy will brings his love ones back, but it will help him deal with his lost which will allow him to mourn and to move on. time is the true ingredient needed to help your friend. your friend is very fortunate to have people like you looking out for him. take the time to seek out some help. don't try and burden this all alone. call your local church and ask for help. you can do this without your friends knowledge. just keep being there for him. call him often and keep up your visits. remind him how much he means to you and others who love him. again, i'm sorry to hear of his loss. God bless. good luck
2007-01-30 23:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down and listen. A depressed person wants to see your attention in your face, don't cut them off, don't interrupt when they are talking about their feelings, let them open up, also try inviting him to a comedy event or a sweet treat while you both talk. It takes a while for someone to move on specially a family death so don't push them to move on quickly, it might take a year to over com that.
2007-01-30 23:12:10 · answer #5 · answered by LIZA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he needs you to be is the best friend that you can be. Give him the shoulder that he needs to cry on. Listen when he wants to talk. And tell him that if he would like you will go to the doctors with him for moral support.
2007-01-30 23:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart , it's not depression your friend is going through it's Grief, and he can seek grief counseling through a church or a counseling center.. I suggest you get him into a program before depression also kicks in and drugs as well. Then he Will be a cross addict which is very, very hard to conform!! GOOD LUCK
2007-01-30 23:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by gee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to see a therapist and he needs for you to support him and encourage him and tell him that everything will be alright but that it will take time. Tell him you understand what he is going through and how tough it is when you lose a parent.
2007-01-31 00:06:23 · answer #8 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just maintain communication and, if you're confident, go into a special relationship. Also, let him doing some recreational activites.
2007-01-30 23:21:05 · answer #9 · answered by ShadowX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for him and talk to him.
Good Luck
2007-01-30 23:06:25 · answer #10 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋