im romantically attracted to mostly boys, but sexually attracted to girls. i would like to have a relationship with a guy but the thought of sex just makes me cringe. im not very stable about sex because of past experience, whether it be with a guy or a girl. i dont understand how having sex with a girl would satisfy me, nor can i understand how sex with a guy could, but i am turned on by women. i just dont want to have to deal with sex, i just want a relationship.
what the hell is wrong with me? do i need therapy or something??
2007-01-30 15:00:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
and would i more likely be gay or straight? or both? how can i learn to like guys? even though they are not attractive whatsoever?
2007-01-30 15:01:47 · update #1
maybe it would help if we knew what gender you are.
2007-01-30 15:04:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are is confused. You don't say how old you are. If you're still in your teens, my guess would be that you're still a long way from being ready for sex. Just because other people seem to be obsessed with it doesn't mean you have to pressure yourself. You will be ready when you're ready, and when you have a loving and caring person in your life. Let time sort it out and don't stress about it.
2007-01-30 23:10:17 · answer #2 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming you are male and not sexually attractive to guys. You are neither gay or bisexual. You sound like you have heterosexual desires but have issues with emotional intimacy.
It would definitely be a good idea to seek therapy to resolve your intimacy issues.
2007-01-30 23:07:02 · answer #3 · answered by Wijssegger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you just like the camaraderie when you're with guys cos you;re not sexually attracted to them. You just enjoy the feeling sof being surrounded by guys, like a brotherhood sort of feeling, and that isn't romance. I think you're straight.
2007-01-31 03:40:31 · answer #4 · answered by xander 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, for your own good I would go see a therapist. This is something that is going to haunt you for life. I think that your past experiences may be holding you back from feeling that type of affection.
2007-01-30 23:37:05 · answer #5 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with teaze, you're just confused, everyone was (or is) at one point.
i really suggest kickin it with either a boy or girl you're into. try not to think about sex. hang out with them solely to hang out. if you have more fun with a girl, than a relationship might work. if you like hangin wit guys, well that might be a little harder. hang out with one of your most open guy friends. remember, don't think about sex, just hang out.
i don't think you need therapy, just spend time with a few more people to sort out your feelings. your hormones are out of control and it's messin with your brain. no worries, it happens.
2007-01-30 23:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by robyoung3484 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you meet the right person it will all take care of itself whether they be male or female or trans or whatever. Just don't worry about it or lables or what anyone else thinks. Just be yourself.
2007-01-30 23:08:09 · answer #7 · answered by bi_tgrl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like I say to so many people: go here: http://www.okcupid.com/tests/take?testid=12680914741600896164. Most importantly: ANSWER HONESTLY!
Good luck!
2007-01-30 23:08:08 · answer #8 · answered by username 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why be so intent on labeling yourself? Labels are how you limit yourself....
Just do what feels right and go with it man!! Screw what anybody else thinks!!
2007-01-30 23:05:14 · answer #9 · answered by lanibear55 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your straight who wants to try new things every once in a while.
2007-01-30 23:04:33 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your probably bi, but lean more towards girls than guys.
2007-01-30 23:03:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋