Do these people even get to know their partners before they marry? Its crazy. I was best friends with my husband. I knew who he was in and out. This is what happens when you dont cohabitate first.
2007-01-30 14:31:47 · 15 answers · asked by TrofyWife 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're lucky
2007-01-30 14:38:01 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to cohabitate neccessarily, but you do need to get to know people. There'd be a lot less marriages if that happened though, and I am a testament to that fact: I am a firm believer in dating at least a year before getting engadged, and if there are problems to resolve, then a long, long engadgement...
and I have never been married. Dodged that bullet not so long ago (less than a year), or I'd probably be running my car in a closed garage about now.
2007-01-30 22:46:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you look at the percentages, those who live together before getting married have a higher divorce rate. Being married and playing married is two different things. Also people when they are dating, well you get to see the better side of them...When you get married there are some people, male and female who think that piece of paper means ownership of the other and the wickedness comes out in them. It takes a really long time to get to know someone and as we age we change...
So things can start out all nice and loving, then turn bitter...It happens....
2007-01-30 22:55:18 · answer #3 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who live together first divorce at a higher rate than those who don't, so your conclusion about cohabitating is just wrong.
Also, when you are married for decades, I'm married for 23 years now, you will go through amazing changes and you won't always like your spouse. Committment is key.
2007-01-30 22:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha, that only works for newly married types. The older types, well I think every married couple goes through phases of not liking their spouse, but the point is to work it out. At least, that's what I've seen and my partner has seen with the 'rents.
2007-01-30 22:38:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure this is a question...sounds like a commentary, however, I have times when I really can't stand this man (together 25 years), but I love him like no one else. He is not the same person I married and many many ways...hopefully I am not the same either (why would I want to be the same as when I was 22?).
2007-01-30 22:47:06 · answer #6 · answered by ladystardonna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love my spouse and i love to be around him lol... I can defintley stand being around him lol. i have to agree that i dont feel these people do take the time to get to know their spouse first at all .. They just jump in too fast and then they wake up later! Very sad ineed but true. I totally agree with you on this one.. Great question by the way!
2007-01-30 22:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is necessary to cohabitate. It is necessary to know someone well before marriage. It is necessary to see that individual under as many different sets of circumstances as possible so you will know what to expect in the overwhelming majority of cases and situations. Otherwise, it is a crap shoot at best.
2007-01-30 22:39:15 · answer #8 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree that people who don't get to know their partner before getting married has alot to do with why people get divorced. And I think people should wait till after they are married to live together. I think it's wrong to live together before marriage.
2007-01-30 22:46:59 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are really lucky. Don't ever doubt that.
You can know only what a person shows you. You can trust them. And then they can all lie to you and be unaware of their reasons.
It isn't about living together. It is about the person inside.
Count your blessings. I would give anything to have a great relationship.
2007-01-30 22:46:20 · answer #10 · answered by kishoti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people end up hating there spouse because he or she decides to change from the person they used to be .
2007-01-31 00:19:45 · answer #11 · answered by Castro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋