have you ever lived with a sociopath?

Question

How did that effect you and how did you get over it?

Answer 1

Wow.. Do you ever get over that? Noooo...
... You move on and attempt to understand.
Psychopathy/sociopathy is one without conscience. In order for one to understand that completely is to be one I think.
Text book version... They lack the normal feelings that comes with natural human kind.Common deceny, guilt... escapes them. They do not understand.
Those afflicted with psychopathy have what is called cortical immaturity. Meaning that they are not as developed socially as most of us are. They SEE how to behave, however don't feel the feelings to go along with it.
For example... One should cry (excluding abnormal circumstances) at the death of a loved one, right? Well, the psychopath LEARNS that this is the way one should react and ACTS that way. Not because they are feeling it, but because they know it is socially acceptable and expected.
Psychopaths have no conscience so therefore have no ability or capacity to feel even true feelings of love, fidelity or honesty. They need more stimulation than that.
All you need to know is that it is not uncommon for an unsuspecting person to have actual feelings for and then feel completely fooled by the ruse. They are EXPERTS at this.
All I can say is that someday, someone will resurrect your faith in people. Until then, you will be wary (naturally!) and suspect all for any slight.
I got over mine by coming to terms with the fact that I (GASP) was fooled. An intelligent, feeling, thinking person (who happens to be in behavioral health and have a specialty degree in abnormal psychology...EEK) actually got suckered into this facade!
Time will only help, time and the strong shoulders of friends who are willing and able to baby step you through this. I know you probably feel like you are the only one who has been unfortunate enough to encounter this, but there are many!
I was actually embarrassed to tell anyone of this for the longest!
It does seem real and we CANNOT live thinking everyone has an agenda. Trust may be something that isn't easy for you, but it will come by virtue of someone in the most accidental way!
I am with you and completely understand! :)
I wish you the best! :)

Answer 2

My first wife. It was terrible and great. She was a freak as a lover but had no sense of right or wrong only her pleasures and desires counted. Life became a living hell. Men always talk mean and call their X's psychos but in this case its true. Several times she was taken away by ambulance to a psychiatric hospital. On one occasion she was help in an area that was completely COMPLETELY surrounded with chain link fencing, including overhead. Her doctor told me in the beginning to stick by her. "If she had cancer you wouldn't abandon her would you" she would say to me. " Mental illness is just another form of sickness and you should stand by her". she often would say. But it starts to affect your own mental health and distancing yourself from such people is only a form of self preservation, a natural instinct. I could go on for pages of how great thing would be one moment and then the living hell it would be the next. The best advice I can give you is RUN. RUN FAR, RUN FAST DON'T LOOK BACK. It'll be hard I know these personality types can be very charming and manipulative. They will use guilt, sex, threats of hurting themselves, threats of hurting you what ever they can to get their way. But they never change and if they ever do the first thing they do is leave you because THEY need a change and fresh start so RUN. RUN NOW RUN FAST, RUN FAR.

ps
all wife beaters are sociopaths and sociopaths are only one murder away from being psychopaths

Answer 3

i was going to move in with one but changed my mind at the last minute.

Answer 4

No, only with a crazy woman.