I am not superwoman ( how do I deal)?

Question

I think my friends think I'm all superwoman this month. This month has been very very stressful for me. I've had band reherals for nights and I wind up exhausted. my homework is piling up. A girl in my grade is being a byotch and spreading nasty rumors about me. Im trying to loose 3 pounds for semi formal. My skin is broken out and acne treatments arent working. My friend (a)is having troubles with her boyfriend. the other( b)is fighting with the first friend. B is stalking a boy and asking my advice. Friend c is asking me to se how the boy im in love with feels about her and advice with her current boyfriend. Friend d broke up with her boyfriend. Im trying to be good to them and my other friends but I get so stressed and ***** or cry. friend e asks me to hang out and gets mad because im already doing something. I am not superwoman. How do I get them to understand. Its tearing me apart quickly. I have loved the boy friend c has like for over a year and am confused how he is treating me

Could you please answer this question about the boy. Thanks

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Answer 1

Just like you explained it to us , you should explain it to your friends. If these are your friends they should see the stress that your under and give you a break, ( true friends, would, smile). Maybe you need to check your definition of friend. Please remember that you can't be everything to everyone". At some point your friends are going to have to grow up and make decision on their own, with or without you life rolls on. Just a thought, keep your head up.

Answer 2

Hey Shining Star. It sounds like you have taken on all the problems of the world. You sound like a caring person, always eager to help out. No doubt your friends have gotten use to that and take advantage of it. Instead of trying to solve their problems, maybe just give suggestions that will enable them to solve their own. Gradually, your friends will not depend on you so much, if that's really what you want. In any event, don't try to spread yourself too thin. It could affect your health and just may have something to do with your acne. As far as your bf goes, try to have a one-on-one with him and let him know how his behaviour towards you makes you feel. If he knew, perhaps he wouldn't take you for granted and start treating you better. And remember, treat yourself better by taking time every day for yourself. You hang in there girl!

Answer 3

First just RELAX!!! listen to music, lay on the grass, do something to ease your mind! and about the boyfriend talk to him. that might be hard but try to explain all the stress you've been going through and stuff like that. and there has to be at least one friend that is there to talk about you and ONLY YOU!!! without having to ask for advice every second. It seems like you have a lot of other stuff(like losing weight and the acne) everybody goes through that and i've learned through experiance that it just causes more stress!
Good luck!

i hope your friends can understand that super woman needs a break every now-and-then!
<3

Answer 4

Hon, you're driving your vehicle (body & soul) in OVERDRIVE with an empty gas tank!
STOP EVERYTHING!
PUT YOUR CELL PHONE IN THE CLOSET.
TURN ON YOUR ANSWERING MACHINE.
HANG A "DO NOT DISTURB" SIGN ON YOUR DOOR.
(the world will not slip off its axis)
NOW GO TAKE A SHOWER AND HAVE YOURSELF A GOOD SOBBING CRY. AS YOU'RE CRYING, THINK TO YOURSELF THAT ALL YOUR TROUBLES ARE GETTING WASHED AWAY RIGHT DOWN THE DRAIN NOW.
Once you're dry and wrapped up in something cozy again, make a list of priorities.
THIS TIME PRIORITIZE ONLY WHAT YOU NEED TO DO FOR YOURSELF AND NO ONE ELSE GOES ON THIS LIST OR ANYTHING YOU'RE EXPECTED TO DO FOR ANYONE ELSE. THIS IS ONLY FOR YOU.
Your friends who truly know and care for you will understand your temporarily being unavailable. Those who refuse to understand, well. . . maybe they've just gotten used to using you up, huh? But that's only 'cause you allow it.
Put on some soothing music. Even dance a bit with yourself. Laugh out loud (something I bet you've not been able to do lately unless you were sloshed!)
Turn off you mind to anything but what you want for yourself with no consideration of anyone else, _even the bf_.
Concentrate on doing what you NEED to do for you FIRST, Then concentrate on doing what you WANT to do for you.
THIS IS _YOUR_ TIME AND YOU NEED IT TO RENEW YOURSELF. SELFISHNESS, IN THIS CASE, IS A CURE-ALL UNTIL YOU CAN FEEL MORE BALANCED AND AGAIN ABLE TO HANDLE YOUR LOAD.
Why push yourself to this point? Wouldn't it be easier and better for your health to schedule time for yourself--alone--even for 10 minutes a day?
We can't be effective if we're falling apart ourselves. You're worth so much more than you know and it's high time that you gave yourself credit for it and let everybody else know that _YOU HAVE LIMITS_. At first they may not understand, but if you stick to your guns and take some personal time as a matter of habit, you'll actually get more done in less time and feel ever so much better about it and your own concerns as well. You'll also be re-training those around you.
I hope this helps, hon. None of us are Superwomen, and we needn't feel ashamed to admit it.
Here's a Hug just 4U
{{{ YOU }}}