I know of actual romantic relationships that exist in the college setting. I want to know your opinion regarding this matter.
2007-01-30 13:52:27 · 7 answers · asked by Scholarly 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Teaching
Are we talking about elementary, secondary or higher education? And what part of the world? Different cultures may approach the question in different ways.
Any kind of romantic relationship between a teacher and a student in elementary or junior school will cause legal and moral issues, with the teacher being blamed as a "pervert", and losing his/her job, if not going to prison. Among adults though, an age difference of 20 years is not so much frowned upon.
As for secondary schools or higher educational institutions, things may not be so grave. I remember a couple of my teachers back at high school having romantic affairs with some students, whom they married later. Such relationships at university level are frowned upon is some countries and in some others, people would just shrug their shoulders.
In any case, a student-teacher relationship is much the same as an employer-employee relationship. One partner has the authority while the other is subject to that authority. It is very difficult to concince people, and even themselves for that matter, that their feelings will not interfere with their work. Eventually people do get a sense of what is going on, and even if that particular student gets those high grades deservedly, it will not be easy to convince other students and/or teachers that there were no favors in the case.
Therefore, such a relationship should be avoided at all costs, unless it can be kept completely discreet (which I doubt).
2007-01-31 00:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by anlarm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who puts themself in a romantic situation with someone who is in a position of authority over them, is making a big mistake. We all know it happens, and not just in college settings, but that doesn't make it right. It's very hard to maintain a romantic relationship with someone who has just given you a D- on your term paper. And if that person wants to continue getting romantic favors from you, they are going to artificially inflate your mark. Which means next semester, when you're in someone else's class, you'll find you are in over your head.
It's just a whole lot easier to make sure romantic relationships don't carry that kind of conflict with them.
2007-01-30 13:58:28 · answer #2 · answered by old lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that a romance within an academic or professional relationship is a bad idea. It makes things awkward in the event things don't work out, plus, people can become suspicious of favoritism and trigger gossip.
Of course, it's always possible to keep things discreet and separate from business if the couple in question is mature enough about it.
2007-01-30 14:03:40 · answer #3 · answered by angelicjolie2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My personal opinion is live and let live. If they are both adults, then I think it's ok. But who am I? I've never been in that situation, and I don't know of anyone who has. I do think that it's frowned upon by society, and it may also be a big deal to the heads of the college.
2007-01-30 14:04:31 · answer #4 · answered by MoMoney23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Puppy love? Most people get over that kind of relationship.
2007-01-30 13:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by Traveller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Good can come from this. ONLY BAD.
2007-01-30 15:06:10 · answer #6 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't. In the long run you will thank me. ;)
2007-01-30 13:59:28 · answer #7 · answered by KMB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋