my bf and i have been together since he was 14 and i was 15 (he's like 10 months younger then me) but anyways we are planning on getting married in july and he will be almost 19 ( 1 more month,august) and i will be turning 20 in the fall. we had talked about getting married since we were 14 and 15 it's like we just knew we were supossed to be together! so i just want your advice as to what you think, do you think us being 19 and 20 is too young to get married? ...thanks...
2007-01-30 13:45:20 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you're too young, go out with other people first
2007-01-30 13:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to answer this, Are you missing out on an opportunity like college that you want to go to because of your man? Do you think he is missing out on things? You to have been together and that is great, but when you reach 19 - 25 you change alot, and that person my change and you may not like that, I dated a guy since I was 15 and finally when I turned 20, my eyes opened up and we ended it and I am so much more happier now, I held back my life for him and no more will I do that. You haven't even found out what it is like to explore new things without someone, not being tied down, don't be a slut that's not what I am saying but being single and enjoying life is great and making your own decisions and not taking into account the other is fun. Why don't you wait and make sure that you are not hurrying into marriage because it sounds like you are unsure, You too have dated for so long you might as well wait to see if you too are really meant for each other.
2007-01-30 14:05:24 · answer #2 · answered by amazonkittycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know you're supposed to be together, why do you want anyone else's advice?
Odds are, this isn't a good idea because you two have no clue about what other people are like, about who might be a better match for your values and temperment.
So far, you've been together while being sheltered and cared for by others, so it's not likely you know much about how the other will do under adversity - tho, alas, you might already know that.
If you're together this long, it's likely you've been sexual, and that creates in girls especially an attachment that might not be warranted by the actual quality of the relationship.
You are still children and have much developing to do.
My mom married at 17, her husband, my precious precious father, died before their 47th wedding anniversary. I married at 22 and have been married for 23 years.
If you are committed to stay together as you change and your plans change and your values change, then the world is your oyster and you will have a very beautiful love story.
Just don't have kids right away and when you do have kids, don't put them in day care.
2007-01-30 14:00:31 · answer #3 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married at 19 and have been married for 13 years now and we have 5 children together.
If it is what you both want and you both feel its right then its not wrong, but at the same time if you really love each other and know you will still be together in 5 years, really whats another 5 years. Its up to the both of you
Good luck
2007-01-30 14:09:44 · answer #4 · answered by shellhiggs07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop letting people tell you that you're too young. In some countries girls as young as 7 get married. The 2 of you are in love and have been for a long time and that's all that matters. It's hard to find someone you can stand long enough to date but in your case though you found that right person at 15, go for it girl. Your age has nothing to do with this, you 2 have reached a level of maturity most don't until their old and tired.
Don't listen to anyone telling you to wait, he wants to marry you as much as you want to marry him and that's what your main focus should be. Marry him and be happy, start your new life with him.Congrats to you and him both for keeping it real long enough to realize how right you are for one another.
Good luck to you both and again just go for it.
2007-01-30 13:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
1. Financial instability. Do you plan on going to college while being married?
2. Have you guys ever lived together? It's going to be a real shocker...
3. You have so much to learn within the next few years. Why throw that away to have a marriage and a long-term commitment.
4. Statistically, the younger you marry, the more likely you are to get a divorce.
Either way you do what you want.
2007-01-30 13:54:45 · answer #6 · answered by Namaste 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think if you two are serious about it and that you both want eachother to be the last and only person you want to be with then go for it. I got married when I was 18 and he was 24. We were married for 6yrs and have three kids. We had a pretty good marriage. But unfortantly, he decided one day that he wasn't sure if he wanted to be married. But even though we are friends still, he has told me that he regrets ever leaving. Just remember a couple keys to a happy marriage is honesty, communication, love, and understanding. ALways talk about your problems and remember to still make time for eachother, even when your busy. I wish you guys luck.
2007-01-30 13:57:13 · answer #7 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you both should have gotten married when you turned 18. You're wasting HUGE amounts of time that could be spent on doing things like, living together, cleaning up his underwear, washing his jeans, and becoming pregnant. If you wait until your 25, you'll just be too old and feeble to get married.
Yes, I 'm being sarcastic. What's the rush?
2007-01-30 14:06:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 17 and am still married going on 6 years it is a lot of hard work and you grow up together but I think if you truly love each other than age is no boundary, I wish you all the happiness...
2007-01-30 14:04:14 · answer #9 · answered by Candice S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you truly knwo he is the one if he is the only guy you have ever been with. I had three -four serious boy friends before I met my fiance. I always thought the ones before him were the one but they were not. I knew when I met my fiance he was the one b/c I never felt that way before. I see my friends who have only been with one guy or girl they're whole life and they are not happy. My advice to you take a break for six months and see what else there is out there and if you still feel than that hes the one....then go back to him.
2007-01-30 14:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's too young. By the time you're 30, your life will be completely different. How do you know right now how you'll feel at that age?
Establish yourselves first. Get careers. Earn some money. Find yourselves. Maybe even spend some time apart to makes sure. If you love is real, it will still be there in a few years.
2007-01-30 13:50:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋