and now she won't speak to me at all. I think she has an attorney and is ready to file for divorce. How do I make her change her mind?
2007-01-30 13:42:16 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't "make" someone change her mind. You change what YOU'RE doing and thinking. I suggest you get yourself into counseling to help you clean up your act and make yourself the kind of person someone like your wife would be able to trust and love. It may be too late for you and your wife. What goes around comes around, after all. You can't expect to do "a lot of really bad stuff" without repercussions after all. But maybe you can at least change yourself and your life enough to have a better chance next time. And, who knows, if you make a thorough transformation--one that is permanent--your wife might reconsider divorce.
2007-01-30 13:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by Yo' Mama 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
After reading all your questions i think you need to leave your wife alone.
It seems as though you have a hard time putting your wife before your two childish and selfish daughters.
If you needed help in some way WHO do you think would actually help you unconditionally??
You need to grow up and let your (hopefully) ex wife get on with her own life. You need to pay her back all that money too - I feel really sorry for your wife
2007-01-30 13:55:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't. You can not dictate to your wife whether she files for divorce or not, it is HER choice. Maybe you should have thought about this BEFORE you did a lot of really bad stuff.
2007-01-30 13:45:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get on your knees and repent to God for the bad things you have done. Put your priorities in order. God first, then your wife and he will change and mold you intol the husband you need to be. He will also honor your request to save your marriage.
Check out www.marriagetoday.org to learn what you have to do to have a successfull marriage. If you are serious about keeping your marriage, listen to them closely.
2007-01-30 13:57:35 · answer #4 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot make her change her mind you will more then likely have to let her go on this one as she obviously does not want to work on the marriage and she wants out.
2007-01-30 13:52:40 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you blew it.
This is your great lesson in life. Sorry...you won't change her mind. I hope that it makes you a better person in the end.
2007-01-30 13:54:33 · answer #6 · answered by kishoti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not you again... Why should she speak to you again? You really did a number on her and she deserve to go away to find some happiness. Leave the woman alone and let her find some peace away from you and your "girls."
2007-01-30 13:45:42 · answer #7 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't make anyone change their mind. I'd suggest you pray, put on a whole new act - friends, manner, language, and find a 3rd party to see if she is open at all to some form of mediated conversation.
2007-01-30 13:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you have done all this bad stuff, then you deserve to have her not talking to you and get a divorce.
2007-01-30 13:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by SuzyBelle04 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should have thought about that before. At this point if she is seeking an attorney you have to let the cards fall where they may.
2007-01-30 13:45:52 · answer #10 · answered by postal_marg 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋