this debt is from a bad business deal and his last divorce its about 25k.i can pay it off but i feel its unfair for him to ask me since this happened all before he met me.men can u tell me would u ask your gf to pay off one of your debts?
2007-01-30 13:40:20 · 32 answers · asked by heather4netty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No way. I'm a man, I take responsibility for my own messes.
2007-01-30 13:43:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO NO NO !!!!!!!! What a creep! Keep your money and find a new bf. He needs credit counseling, not a get out of debt free card.
Being $25,000 in debt is not the end of the world. It should be manageable for a person with a decent job and some self-control. Lots of college students accrue more debt than that just in student loans.
Boyfriend needs to get his financial house in order himself, without involving you, and especially without you paying it off, before he is going to be ready to marry again. If he doesn't have a clear plan to do that, then he is not a good bet for a husband.
2007-01-30 13:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by Karen C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of crap is that? I would have to tell you no for the time being. Being newly engaged should set off an alarm there! If he is already asking such things from you, and you know he is horrible with debt. I am sorry but I would be looking to get out. Who's to say he wont drag you down with him again....I would wait a LONG time..if you stay with him to help pay any kinda debt like that.
2007-01-30 14:04:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a man I would never ask a woman to pay off my debt,
and would only consider asking for a loan, but for this
amount NEVER. This shows your bf is ir-responsible and
to get you involved in something he did before he even
knew you is inconsiderate. It's your money so I am not
one to tell you what to do, just be sure and think it out as
money changes people and if he sees that you have that
kind of money to give him , who knows what he will use
you for next. Just because you are engaged does not
mean now you have to take on his responsibilities that
he needs to take care of.
2007-01-30 13:47:17 · answer #4 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm, he asked this of you before or after he 'proposed'? He might be a great guy and just now feel comfy in asking with full expectatiion that he'll be paying you back in full...soon, but then again, it makes me wonder why his previous marriage really ended...poor financial risk perhaps?
If it were me I'd have a tendency to tell him to try elsewhere, like a bank or something. You're very right in that this isn't your responsibility and it's history that took place before you got there so why should you be asked to clean it up for him.
Still going to get married? Get a pre-nup prepared, something sounds a tad odd.
2007-01-30 13:51:05 · answer #5 · answered by dustiiart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right it is totally unfair -
if I was you, not only would I tell him the answer is no - I* would also end the relationship.
I had this happen to a friend. There are so many guys out there who use girls for their money. He shouldn't have asked you - that's totally wrong. And if you do it as a favour, I will almost guarantee, the relationship will end soon after and you will have to fight him in court to get the money back.
2007-01-30 13:47:32 · answer #6 · answered by miss2sexc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not!
It is his responsibility.
My boyfriend and I both have a lot of debt. Most of his is not being paid on. We share an account, and I'm willing to contribute to his debt because he contributes to mine. However, I will not make any additional financial commitments with him until he starts paying on his debt.
Also, my ex-boyfriend and I (a guy I THOUGHT I was going to marry) shared an apartment. We were both unemployed for a while, and I made the stupid mistake of putting both of our bills on my credit card. Of course, we broke up, and I got stuck with the bill.
So . . . again, no!
2007-01-30 13:51:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not a man but i can tell you i wouldn't do it.
it is unfair and what makes you think after you pay it off he won't then "need some space"
also remember if you marry the guy, this debt is going to be baggage that could affect your marriage in the future.
(like money from tax returns, collection agencies calling round the clock, etc.. etc.)
2007-01-30 13:52:47 · answer #8 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can help him if it only came from a bad business deal. But since it also include debts from his last divorce.
Answer is NO.
2007-01-30 13:48:45 · answer #9 · answered by Jhermie C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There used to be a great song, "Hit the road Jack." This guy is going for the gold before the cake goes stale. This bad news buddy needs to sign the tightest prenuptial you can get. Tell him you have a request sort of like his about money.
Bad business deal + bad marriage + bad common sense + bad timing = BAD news
2007-01-30 13:44:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ybe alert he can only be using you to pay off this debt in case its not like that NO! DO NOT PAY IT its his debt from before he needs to be an responsible adult and figure out a payment plan that can assist him in this issue. that tells you some thing about him..... he will always rely on you to pay his debts every time his stuck on a whole. if you allow this , you will open a door for your money to be spend by some one else like your fiance. he need to learn from this because if it does not cost him he will easily do it again.
2007-01-30 13:49:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋