When scolding my children in public I really like to make it very clear to them who is in charge. To that extent, should I also scold nearby children who are not mine? Should I scold the parents, too? I really think the parents are as much to blame as the children because the parents are the people who make the children such losers. I know it's right to scold in public, the question is, just how far should I go?
2007-01-30 13:35:50 · 6 answers · asked by David Vann 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Focus on teaching your children, not scolding. Who knows-keep it up and the children may try to embarrass you in public on purpose. Let them see your example of maturity by taking the kids aside and talking to them personally. If you are clear that you respect them but not their current behavior, they will probably seek to please. Let them know what is expected before you go out in the first place and tell them what the consequences will be if they choose not to meet the expectations. Then if they misbehave, remind them of the consequences that you will discuss at home. It does no one any good to balk at your kids in public. Not only is it rude, but it's annoying. People are only going to feel sorry for the kids, not you. You look like a woman who can't control herself, who reacts to her kids, who isn't proactive. Let them know you're in control of yourself by staying calm. Then deal with the problem later.
2007-01-30 14:01:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doing so in public is wrong for several reasons. First, it can cause a traumatic reaction in the child from which it may take years to recover. Second, It may provoke unwanted attention from others, such as law enforcement or security guards. And third, it's simply a bad choice. A stern look usually will do the trick in my family. Once you and the child are home, you can talk about the prblem and reach a solution, but in public? Nah, not a good idea. An even more important problem is you. What planet do you come from in which you have to treat children like military recruits? Get some therapy now.
2007-01-30 21:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by Reo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, well scolding other kids who are not yours is a definite no no. Leave the parents to discipline their kids-unless the kids are harassing your kids, then it's OK to say, "Don't be doing that to my daughter [or son]."
If your kids are misbehaving you can scold them gently kinda by saying, "You need to stop that right now, young lady [or young man]." If they keep it up, take them aside or outside or some place where you can have a talk with them and scold them a little there. Don't yell the whole time at your kid. Kids seem to notice when their parents are yelling a lot at them-even if the adult doesn't. Scolding will not always get your point across. Therefore you have to take action by taking away privileges, explaining why they are getting in trouble and see what they could do next time to prevent the same thing from happening again and so on.
I hope I helped!!
2007-01-30 21:45:17 · answer #3 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scold your own children as much as you want, but don't reprimand other people's kids unless they do something completely inappropriate aimed at you personally. It's just not your responsibility and is pretty intrusive.
2007-01-30 21:42:08 · answer #4 · answered by junebug21 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
are you kidding me? you shouldn't scold anyone, let alone a stranger. don't be rude. just kidding.
2007-01-30 21:41:51 · answer #5 · answered by feyminist 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you for real?
2007-01-30 21:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by A.J. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋