how to deal with a friend who may be jealous?

Question

I just graduated and am now working for a huge company and loving it my friend had the opportunity to work at an acounting firm but was canned after 3 mos of probation and now works at a factory that will be soon closing. She has not been around much since i began my job. I live with my parents ( high rent) she will come in swear nonstop put down my fave shows and that i read the news. She is a 34 yr old divorcee with kids whom she only see when it is convient for her. An attitude problem & thinks all men find her the sexiest woman to which these men reply no behind her back, lately i have caught her in lie after lie and i don't know what to say i am the only friend she has left. she is trying to be a cougar and it's ridiculous. she actually told her 8 and 10 yr old that santa doesn't have a wife it's a myth he has girlfriends & she is one of them to hide the fact she was talking to her slutty sister about this guy who may or may not exist that got kicked off a dating site. HELP

Answer 1

The real question here is why you feel so obligated to help in the first place. I've read a lot of bad signs off of your description of your friend but no real reason why you feel she should be allowed to be apart of your life. Just because the way someone is makes it hard for them to make friends with other people doesn't mean you have to bare the burden its not a good reason to stay in a bad friendship it doesn’t teach them anything. There’s most likely a real good reason for why you’re her only friend and its not solely her fault. Now that’s ether because your a big softie and don't want to make waves and hurt feelings, or some where deep in side you feel obligated to slap a little sense in her and help her out. Now ether start giving her some word about how ridiculous her behavior is or wash your hands because your not going to be the one strong enough to change her. Friendships are only good if your still being a friend to yourself in the process, it seems some where in this mess your losing sight of doing what would make you feel good about you. That’s up to your perception but its going to come down to that single choose or you just sit on your thumbs and wait for her to make the choose. From the description, doesn’t seem she’s going to figure it out on her own.