I am having my first baby in march. But I'm scared to death!!! I'm not sure if I should get an epidurmal (if that is spelled right) or just rough it. I hate pain!!! My husband Tim wants me to rough it, he said that it will make me closer to the baby......but I'm not sure. No pain no game? WHATEVER!!! I need some moms to help me here with personal experience!!!!
2007-01-30 13:28:45 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I tried to go through the whole labor without the epideral, but I went into 23 hours and I started getting pale and sick so the dr. suggested that I get the ep. I did and it made the whole delivery much easier and much more enjoyable. I was able to enjoy my son much quicker and I really don't think that it will make you any closer to your baby. The baby has been in you for 9 months and you are going to be feeding him from your own body. It doesn't get any closer than that.
2007-01-30 13:36:09 · answer #1 · answered by froggiebutterfly 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just had my baby 3 weeks ago my first one to. I was going to try an hold off on the epidural till I couldnt stand the pain. Like you I am not a fan of pain. Well my contractions started getting stronger and were about at 70 on the graph and I finally had to have the epidural. If I was you I would do what you want not what your husband says. You can bond and be close to the baby even with the epidural. I felt close to my little girl by carrying her 9 months and giving her life. But go with what you feel is right for you just remember he isnt the one pushing a watermelon through a lemon so he dont understand the pain. Good luck to you.
2007-01-30 21:36:33 · answer #2 · answered by spoiledmogurl04 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow I was scared to death when I had my first baby. I decided for the epidural and the birth went fine. DIdn't feel a lot of pain and that was fine by me. But even my contractions were not what I expected, I thought they would be unbearable and bone breaking but the fact is they were not. With my second one, I had an epidural that didn't go well at all. I had decided not to have one this time based on my previous experience but the doctor said they needed to b/c of my blood pressure. Anyway, It hurt going in like an electric shock down my leg and then didn't work properly and then when it was all over I developed an epidural headache. You may have heard of these but I was not prepared for it at all. Imagine the worst migraine headache eer and then make it worse. So what is my advice? Tell the doctor that you might want one but that you are going to see how the pain is first. If it seems managable then work with it I found out that when it seems you can't handle it anymore it is time to push anyways! Good Luck
2007-01-30 21:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by Tetsi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go with the epidural. I hate pain and my husband actually begged me to get the epidural with our second child. With the first baby I was at a hospital that did not do epidurals so I had to go with another pain medication that didn't work. When I had my second child and I could just relax and joke with my husband or sleep a little I had an easier time pushing. After my first I said I wasn't having anymore cuz of the pain but then when I had the second with no pain at all I thought I could definently do this again.
2007-01-30 22:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by mamaof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have 2 children. 1 without the epidural and 1 with the epidural. I would much rather deliver without the drugs because I had all sorts of problems with it. I ended up getting that spinal headache from the epidural and it was just awful. When u go for natural childbirth the pain is over when the baby comes out. I had to deal with pain for 2 weeks after the birth because of the epidural.I ended up getting a blood patch done, which is also painful. I hope my answer helps you. Good Luck
2007-01-30 21:53:28 · answer #5 · answered by sparkles113077 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't really help too much I didn't have much pain at all and they even had to give me pitocin to help make my contractions stronger and still no pain the nurses were in shock but anyway I ended up having a c-section. My mom said epidural all the way but my best friend had 3 with no pain and said it wasn't that bad. So I think it all depends on the woman wait until you are in labor and than decide if you want one or not. Remember it is you that is having this baby not your husband if you are in too much pain than go for the epidural. Congrats and Good Luck!!
2007-01-30 21:33:11 · answer #6 · answered by mdoud01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First baby i didn't have time to get any drugs...believe me it is the most painful thing ever... iwould have rather died...i was screaming and crying and miserable... i was a total B and rude to everyone...the whole experience was not pleasant for anyone...i was mad they were mad...everyone was mad...I mean you seriously hope to die...i wanted them to shove the kid back in, i was yelling i dont want to do this...it was terrible...
Second baby, i got induced. I was at seven and thought i could handle it...but i gave that up real quick.. I got the epidural and it was great. I mean it is so mcuh for pleasant you can actually focus to push. I coudln't even focus to push the first time i was just screma because my freaking crotch was begin ripped open...but the epidural was great and you don't even feelt he needle. And i am just as close to the baby with the epidural as the baby with out...so that is a crock...
Believe me once you get to the end of labor the man will be tellingthemt o give u the epidural. My hubby felt so bad he couldnt do anything or help and he kept telling me to ge tthe epidural sooner but i didn't and finally i did and it was ok then. Calm and focused...not in extremem i want to die pian.
2007-01-30 21:48:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am due anytime now, and I am not going to be no hero. I want to try to do it on my own, but I gave myself permission to have an epideral if I need it.
I would say not to let anyone tell you what to do with your body. after all it is you pushing the baby out, not your Hubby, and it isn't going to make you any less closer to the baby if you decided to have one. Just know the Pro's and Con's. Also, you don't have to have an epideral. there are many Pain relief methods you can discuss with your OBGYN. The epideral will give you no pain, but there are other meds that take the itch out of the contractions. so you will still feel everything, but it won't be as painful. so that is another option for you. Good Luck!
2007-01-30 21:39:56 · answer #8 · answered by curiousjules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use the epidural! 1st of all, your husband doesnt have to go through the pain so he shouldnt have anything to say about it. I had epidurals with both my kids and I love them more than anything. Also, it doesnt completely take all the pain away and if you hate pain and try to do it naturally, chances are you'll change your mind, but it might be too late! You should do whatever makes you more comfortable. No matter what you'll still have that beautiful baby that no one else will be closer to! Good luck! and congratulations
2007-01-30 21:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can bear the pain I wouldn't have the epidural the pain in some women is not that unbearable. The actual labor is harder than the giving birth part I went through it naturally with both of my children and they are also pain medication there if you need it My daughter is also due in March and my other daughter is due in June and they have both decided against the epidural.
2007-01-30 21:33:52 · answer #10 · answered by Horrified 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋