How can i beat my low self estem?

Question

my situation is that i don't know how to talk to people my age and i feel that it had to do with my past. i was born differently then most and so i had faced some tremendous obsticles being born differently then others. i was teased and was always tryin to fit in with different crowds because i wanted to be accepted by others.
throughout my life it was very difficult to wake up and to know that this would never end. now i feel that i am in a better place then before and however there are some pieces of my past left in me. because i'm very cautious with people hurting my feelings and so forth i don't comunicate much with others and it has gotten to the point where i feel like i can't comunicate with family members and people in school. because i act this way, people get the wrong impression of me without thinkin that i might be a shy person so my question is how do i get over my low self esteem and show people who i'm really am ? i find it so hard to get out of this, how do i do it ?

Answer 1

I am not a therapist, but this is my advice to you. I think this is good that you care, and are not afraid to ask questions.

Try to find at least a few good friends, act how you feel like acting. If you don't want to talk about something, don't. Be honest with people.

Don't try to fit in with people. Know that you are a good person, whether it be in morals, or whatever.

Talk to someone you trust, if you can find them.

It is a really hard thing to go through, I have had low self esteem before too.

If people judge you and are rude, remember: They are not doing the right thing, and you should not associate with people who do not try to do the right thing.

I think the best thing for me, was getting really close friends. Just a select few, that I could talk to without worrying what they thought of me, and knowing that they were nice, good people. I just found some good people, and I made friends with them. It helped me TREMENDOUSLY, and I would really suggest that.

God bless, good luck to you. : )

Answer 2

I have had/having some of the same issues. I am shy and also don't know how to talk to people very well. I also feel that it was based on my past and I have also been hurt by others and always cautious when it comes to relationships. lately I have felt better about the whole thing and how i've done it is just set small goals, when i am around people and i want to talk to them or whatever and i get all "shy" i just take a quick deep breath and the start to ask it before i can think about it again.

Wih the goals just start off really small and gradually add on. like a few of my first were just say hi to someone i dont talk to much, someone i knew or we had met before but dont usually talk. then just move up from there as you feel comfortable. I have met a lot of people from it and have become friends...I still am very quiet but I feel like i've improved.

I would also like any advice from others : ) I am still selfconsious and yeah it bugs me a lot.

Answer 3

if he didnt discover you pleasing he wouldnt be with you. and it ought to not all be about looks. at the same time as think about quite a number of different issues going for you too like a stunning personality and being smart. one element I have discovered (I have low self esteem too) is that in spite of in case you do not imagine you're exceptionally, do not say something about it! if he says you're exceptionally then he extremely thinks that and do not tell him he's incorrect! he's with you because he needs to b e. when we commence showing our low self esteem like that it ought to extremely turn a guy off and push them away. why element your flaws to him in any case?