I have sole custody of my two children. My ex husbands visitation rights were suspended untill he attended drug treatment. I was remarried and was planning to move across country. He was notified I was moving and made no legal effort to stop me. Shortly before I moved he was arrested and later convicted of attempted murder of his girlfriend. He was sentenced to 5 years.
#1 I live in Georgia and due to a conflict between GA and CA laws. GA says I have to file in CA (where he lives)and CA says I have to file in GA(where the violence is most likely to happen) so my restraining order is no longer in effect. And he is due to get out of prison any day.
#2 I have not and have no intention of telling him or any member of his family my location. The DA child support has my address with all the do not release paper work. Can he claim I am denying him rights? Would the DA notify me if he filed for custudy. Who am I legaly responsible to notify of my address? Any Ideas?
2007-01-30 12:55:51 · 9 answers · asked by Leigh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can' run and hide. This is not good for you nor the children. You should stop talking to the people that answer the telephone in Georgia and ask for supervisors. They are giving you the run around which burecrats are good at doing. So are the ones in Calfiornia.
There is and must be something in Ga that the authorities can do to protect the children from any harm. Write the names down of people you talk to in Ga, ask them how to spell it so they will know that you are writing their names down.
Tell them of the violate nature of your ex, also the fact that he spent time in jail for attempted murder.
If the authorities fail to assist you contact your elected officials like your local representative or state senator. Tell them the problem and make sure again you get names. Now you might not be able to speak directly with the elected official, but some one on his/her staff should dedicate time for you.
You should also contact child protective services for any assistance they will give,make sure they understand the full story.
Running and hiding is not the answer. Changing idenity and moving is very stressfull on your children and what would you be teahing them that every time something bad happen they should pack up and take off.
As for supervised visitations that is fine, you should be there, don't be afraid of a bully, that is their Method of Operation to intimidate you. Even if you are scared as hell stay with your children. You don't have to say anything to him, just be where you can see each of your children.
If you have been given sole custody, then there should not be that much of a problem, about supervised visit or no visits.
I hope this has been of some use to you, good luck.
"FIGHT ON"
2007-01-30 13:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by Skip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already have full custody and if he did go back to court they would look at his record and deny him anyway. As far as visitations if you do get any notice of him legally wanting to see them ask for supervised only because of his violent history and you can drop them off at the place like - police station- and he has to visit them wherever is decided then once he leaves you can pick them up. that way there is no contact with him or you. Make it clear you are affraid of him and do not want him to know where you live. Also if he does find out what state and town due to vistits make sure he isn't following you. For now just stay low. Does he have the money for a lawyer and things to pursue? Also does he have money for child support? If not he may not even try.
2007-01-30 21:12:49 · answer #2 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st make sure you have not skeletons in the closet. The talk to an atty and child protective services. Tell them everything you have said here. prove he is violent and possibly a threat to the children. child proctective services can get a restraining order against him for the childrens saftey.
Even if a judge grants him visitation you can ask it be supervised by cps or a police officer, that he take drug treatment and anger management clesses.
Be sure the school knows about this and will not release your children to him.
You can try to get his parental rights revoked.
2007-01-30 21:09:44 · answer #3 · answered by andreamarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Notify both places. Notify the new place of the potential for problems with the ex. Get your attorney working to remove his parental rights.
2007-01-30 21:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my ex might try to kill me or my kids, I wouldn't CARE if it was legal or not - I'd hide and change my name. Just do it. It won't matter if you were in the right by law if you or one of the kids is murdered, will it.
2007-01-30 21:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by Miz Teri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to a lawyer and see what your options are here and what can be done to protect the kids from him.. You will need proof of all of this though so that you can build a good case.
2007-01-30 21:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you have is "good cause" that is a good reason to deny this criminal of any rights to visitation privileges check with your county attorney to make sure Good luck
2007-01-30 21:04:50 · answer #7 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was in your position I would just go on with my life. He's the criminal and you shouldn't have to worry about getting in trouble.
2007-01-30 21:06:26 · answer #8 · answered by Tasha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get the hell out, as far as you can and try to get help from the authoroties to hid your identity. get a fresh new start dear
2007-01-30 21:04:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋