My marriage is falling apart. We both aknowladge that we both need to get it together soon. But how can I when she seems unwilling to do anything? She doesn't seem to care for herself let alone me and then blames things on me like everything is my fault.
2007-01-30 12:55:06 · 19 answers · asked by pantyhoselover2182 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It won't survive without trust, understanding, communication or work on both your parts. Hate to say it but maybe she doesn't want it to work, if she's not doing anything to try to make it work. Have you tried marriage counseling? Might help, but only if you both want it to. GOOD LUCK
2007-01-30 13:00:51 · answer #1 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dunno if he doesn't care or he doesn't know HOW to care. Either way, if you feel that you have done everything you can do to make this marriage work, then you need to decide whether to stay in a marriage that isn't working (for the sake of the children) or move out. BTW - this isn't a trust issue, in my opinion; it's an issue of closeness. He has been comfortable with a marriage based on small talk and distance, you aren't. Also BTW - you haven't given up everything for him, you have given up everything for your two small children. Final BTW - I wouldn't file for divorce just yet, but I would move out and stay with some friends. You need to shock your partner awake. Make it clear that you want to stay married, but you must have some major changes for you to stay. I lied, one last BTW - counseling is not something that you go to (once or twice) and then everything's fixed. Counseling requires work on your and his part. Long term work to undo years of bad habits. Good luck, honey.
2016-03-28 21:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust and honesty are the two foundations for any relationship. without one or the other, no healthy relationship can result. perhaps this aknowladgment of a problem is the first step, seek professional help. your wife may be experiencing signs of depression, try talking to her calmly and be as understanding as possible. good luck!
2007-01-30 13:01:54 · answer #3 · answered by mrs. miller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the core of a marriage. That gives you your answer. Why is there no trust? Did someone cheat, lie what caused it. If your wife is unwilling to change or seek help, get out. Tell her so and make yourself happy. Life is too short.
2007-01-30 13:51:48 · answer #4 · answered by jjeano661 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any type of relationship won't survive without trust. It's obvious marital counseling is in your best interest and salvation of your marriage. If she won't agree to marital counseling, what's stopping you from your own personal counseling, to help you get through this. There are plenty of marital resources in bookstores or libraries, too. Even if she won't agree to reading it with you, whose to say she won't read it when you're not around?! Until she is "willing" to open up and first resolve the issues within herself (her own personal counseling), will you both rise above all the issues and restore your marriage. At this pace, your marriage will struggle to survive and may even be doomed.
I wish you a "peace of mind" and a happy ending!
2007-01-30 13:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by Cara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, It sounds like you don't make her feel good about her self. You may make her feel like she can't do anything right and so she has to turn the blame on you. If you don't have complete trust in any relationship it's headed south. If you want to save your marriage go to counseling together and apart.
2007-01-30 13:07:39 · answer #6 · answered by aloneathome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some marriages work out better when the divorce papers are signed if you both really want it to work you both have to work at it. set yourself a shut off point though so you know if it gets to that point its over. divorce isnt the end of the world or even the relationship it gets rid of the pressures you gain as a couple and allows you to be friends. but discus things and agree thats paramount if you want to save anything from the marriage.
2007-01-30 13:03:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you have said here, this isn't a trust issue, you have just failed to keep your relationship strong, failed to communicate your wishes and needs, and failed to remember what it was about each other that you liked. That's a lot to patch up. I'd suggest you both get into a few sessions of counseling to learn how to get your issues on the table and discuss your needs without trouncing on each other's ego.
2007-01-30 13:00:18 · answer #8 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can if you want it to.... This is totally up to you.. seek help and counseling for you and or your marriage. Why is there no trust if i may ask? Did someone cheat here?
2007-01-30 13:00:42 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage counseling is the way to go
2007-01-30 12:59:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋