ok so im 14 and i was pg, i have been sick for almost a week and so 2day my gramma took me to da hospital cuz i had gotten sicker and they told me and my bf that our baby mostlikly would not live because she was so small and she was getting sick also, then she died earlier tonite.i didnt believe it and blocked it out of my head, and my bf kept tellin me it was ture i just kept tellin him that lying isnt good, but then the nurse told me that my baby was gone, i dont no how to react, i've had every bad thing imaginable happen to me, i've been raped,beaten by my parents,beaten at school, cutting problems, and now this? i dont wanna believe it but every time i look at my bf and see that sad look on his face i have to remember what happened. what do i do?
2007-01-30 12:48:58 · 17 answers · asked by koi 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Pray then Pray some more. You have had a hard time of it but there is more strength in you than you know. Prayer can help focus that strength. Give yourself and your B/F time to heal both physically and emotionally.
Find someone you trust to talk to. It helps to talk about it.
I'm sorry that this happened to you.
God Bless and Paw Paw is praying for you.
2007-02-03 12:07:00 · answer #1 · answered by Paw Paw 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for what has happened to you. I imagine you'll feel crappy and sad for a while. Your boyfriend is sad too. You might want to see if you can get counselling and grief counselling from the hospital. You are so young. I think it was brave of you to try to keep the baby. I lost a baby also at a time when a baby wouldn't have been good for me. I was so sad about having to let it go and sad because I knew I would have loved him/her even though I would have missed opportunities in my own life. A friend of mine suggested maybe instead of me being there to love the baby, the baby was a soul sent to love me. A message that something needed to change in my life. I was worried about where the baby's soul would be. I think it was still out there waiting to come to me again when the time was right. I stopped focusing on men for attention and love. I tried to make better girlfriends for intimacy and focused on my career and got counselling. I don't mean to sound preachy. I don't even know you and you must be just so terribly sad. i just hope something I said will help at some time. Time you'll see. Give it time and don't be afraid of the sadness. A part of it will be with you always.
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2007-01-30 13:07:57 · answer #2 · answered by monkey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, you need counseling. I don't say that to be mean, I believe everyone should have some form of it. I've suffered through a couple of the same things you mentioned and it really comes down to you needing help learning how to love yourself. I'm really sorry that you lost your baby but at your age and with all the issues that you have faced, it would be very difficult trying to raise a baby when you obviously weren't given the best opportunities yourself. Please get into counseling, most places offer a sliding scale (only $10 or $20 a session based on income)and they will help you to utilize your own inner strength to overcome just about everything. In the meantime, I'm glad you have a boyfriend that loves you but please both of you be smart and protect yourselves against another pregnancy until you can really offer the baby the life that it deserves. Please email me anytime!
2007-01-30 13:00:17 · answer #3 · answered by answergrrl3 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Do everything everyone on here has told you to do. They've given good advice: talk to someone and let it out. I just wanted to answer this so I could tell you that I'm SO sorry for your loss and how bad things have been for you. They will get better though...life has a way of turning around. Maybe this will bring you and your boyfriend even closer.
2007-01-30 13:03:41 · answer #4 · answered by coldasyou213 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
U need to talk to someone. Having a baby at 14 is very hard and maybe Ur baby had something wrong with it. I lost a baby a few yrs ago and it is hard. Go talk to a professional about it or someone u trust in Ur family.
Take care.
2007-01-30 12:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Booh♥ ☺☺☺☺☺ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your body even at the same time as contained in the extent of dozing is between the most lively and violent aspects understand to guy for the human body kills purely about 15 million purple blood cells a 2d. ought to element that is a silent killer as i could not sleep with all that screaming occurring, eh?
2016-12-03 06:27:23 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You grieve. You cry. You remember that little one. It is always going to be a part of you. You lost a child. Now you grieve. You hug your boyfriend. Yell, scream, whatever you need to do. You let it out. It is OK and normal to be sad and down. Slowly it will get easier. Just remember the baby is still watching you. Make him/her proud of its mom! I am sorry for your loss.
2007-01-30 12:59:49 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
START A NEW YOU, BY ATTENDING A CLASS THAT STARTS YOU ON YOUR WAY TO A TRADE OR OCCUPATION. YOU AND YOUR BOYFRIEND COULD DO IT TOGETHER OR DO IT BY YOURSELF. YOU KNOW BEST THE APPROACHES TO TAKE TO ACHIEVE FULFILLMENT IN YOUR LIFE OR LIVES. DONT PANIC AND DONT HAVE A FAMILY NOW ., RELAX AND LIVE WITH A DIFFERENT APPROACH. CREATE A NEW ENVIRONMENT FOR YOURSELF . FIND GOOD FRIENDS TO ASSOCIATE WITH AND REMEMBER WHERE THERES A WILL AND STICKTOITIVENESS YOULL SEE A WHOLE NEW ENVIRONMENT. THINK THINK THINK
2007-01-30 13:06:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not to be cruel but maybe that was meant to be. You are very young and have your whole life ahead of you.spend xtra time with loved ones and try to find things to do to keep your mind off of it.keep your head up cause with all of the hard times you've had good will come to you.
2007-01-30 13:07:59 · answer #9 · answered by sweet lady 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Youboth need to talk to a grief counsellor.I cant say anything that will take your pain away.Just believe that your little one is is in the arms of Jesus.
2007-01-30 13:02:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋